Ellianne
I thought a therapist was there to allow you to offload and pour out all your feelings. Then gradually they encourage you to unravel it all and make your own decisions. Their going down the blame route is totally unacceptable.
I agree, Ellianne, not what a good therapist would do.
Mind you, a couple of times I’ve seen on here posters saying things like ‘My counsellor says he/she is completely out of order’, or ‘My counsellor says I need to......’ or ‘It sounds like he/she has dementia, is having an affair’, or anything else.Of course this could be the counsellee hearing what they want to hear, or else a poor choice of counsellor.
I think you need to be very careful when looking for support, and,as said before, personal recommendation or referral from GP is best.
Incidentally, support from groups like this can be invaluable, but again, you need to be careful, as ‘It sounds to me as if......’, can happen a lot online. I’ve seen posters give a couple of bits of information, and being met with diagnoses of dementia, autism, or ADHD, and suggestions of alerting social services, asking for referral to psychologists, or removing children from school, not to mention the ones who tell posters their marriages are over!