So how old do you think I am? (Don’t answer that!)

Nannan2 After working for 46 years I was entitled to collect my oension after paying for it all those years. My DD is 55 and certainly doesn't consider me elderly. I was 64 when my youngest DS was 18 and no one ever thought I was his grandmother. To me age is just a number and doesn't really indicate anything else

My grandson who is 8 years old wanted to know how old I was so I told him, he then proceeded to tell me that his other nana was older but looked younger than me!! I was feeling quite good up till then ?

I'm 58 and still going through many unwelcome post-men. changes. Used to (up to even three yrs ago) be considered in my forties, but now , not so. Hey ho.

Maybe she hates driving and just made this comment with respect to driving in general? I have several friends who hate driving.

I started the thread not a fight that would appear to be you

What planet are you on GillyEB?
Or just stirring?

Talking about age.Two friends have just had their 80th birthdays .
Most of their cards (not mine) have a big 80 on them.
If I reach that age I hope I will not need reminding and any cards with 80 on them will be turned the other way.

Sometimes people get it wrong in the opposite way. I was in Morrison's a while back in the queue behind a woman who was buying alcohol. The check out operator asked her for ID and she didn't have any with her. She apologised and added, "But I am 38!" I bet she walked out of there with a light step. I wasn't buying alcohol that day so I didn't get asked....?

Agree with Gonegirl, if comments are kindly and helpfully said just accept them, could be a lot ruder. I know someone who hates someone offering a seat on a bus or train or offering an arm (ses 87!) Bring it on Isay??

Well, I still don't get why people feel the need to take so much offence at something so trivial as someone making an off the cuff remark. As I said before, I don't think it was 'about' the OP but about the assistant's mother. I don't think the assistant was expressing surprise that maw was still driving but, rather, regretting that her mother wasn't.

I still don't get why anyone in their seventies has spasms about being thought elderly. I really don't. Compared with most of the population of the world, it is elderly. Elderly isn't an insult. It's a harmless description, just as child is, or adolescent. Taking umbrage about such expressions as elderly only adds to silliness and ageism. If elderly people just responded with a "Yes, I am and so what?" or "Yup. Elderly and great" it might take the wind out of the sails of ageists.

Many years ago,while at a presentation event at my children’s school,I was sat near the back in the school hall.
A teacher came up to me and told me that the elderly people have reserved seats at the front, near the stage.

I was only 42!

Granted, I started to go grey in my late teens, but still. ?

I am 63 and, like my gran, I don't look my age - I often get included as 'Mum' when I am out with my grandchildren who are 15, 11 and 9 - my grandson just sighs and says 'That's my Nan' When they were little I was out with the two older ones and the littlest one in her pram and they called me Nanny then. I had a lady ask me in the cafe we were in if I was with an Agency as her daughter was looking for a reliable Nanny to look after her new born baby when she went back to work. Did make me giggle.

I too would have found the remark tactless, Maw.

I think partly because we grew up in a time that has idolised youth more and more and from regarding older people as more experienced and wiser than the young, society is more and more inclined to regard us a doddery old nuisances.

Another aspect is that we probably all quite naturally shudder at the thought that the day may come when we no longer can or ought to do some things we have done all our adult lives.

I have had to accept that I am no longer able to ride a bike safely - that hurt, on the other hand I am thrilled to be able to afford to hand shovelling snow over to a younger neighbour.

Personally, I find growing old gracefully quite hard sometimes.

Go Baggs! Go Girl
Mawbroon this is a discussion site not a boxing ring! Shame on you.You started the fight not the thread.I think the shop assistant hit a raw nerve?

Yes i too would consider 74 'elderly'- and im 55- dont the government consider pension age as elderly?i bet you all wouldnt say "oh no its fine i dont need my pension you can keep it-i dont consider myself elderly" would you??

MawBroon,your ordinal comment made me think of a time when my sister (age difference 5 years) and I were at a Dinner .
We mentioned to someone we were sitting with that we were sisters and he asked which one of us was the elder one!
Answer-the one (me) who was smiling

It isn't how old you yourself think you look nor your biased nearest and dearest Perfect strangers are a good indicator.

Yes i have same situation as some of you- my youngest 2 'kids' are now 20& 15- but luckily no one seems to assume im their gran not their mum hopefully as im younger looking.and often out with younger GC im mistaken for their mum.Long may it last i say

Daisy boots,at 74 I would have agreed with you.
At 78 (just) and having free transport in Greater London I would not mind giving up the car if my husband suggested it.
I used to be happy driving hundreds of miles each year but not any more.
I travelled on the M25 on Monday .
It was a nightmare.
Give me an Uber taxi any day of the week.
I bet it wouldn't cost much more to travel if I did go by taxi or public transport but it would not of course be so convenient.

Two of my ex colleagues took early retirement at 55, and immediately stopped driving. We lived in a very small town with one quiet roundabout, and one set of traffic lights. When their husbands were ill they had to rely on friends, neighbour's and taxis. I'm 70, and have done all the driving for the past three years as DH's PD worsened. Two years ago, we moved to a city, notorious for it's driving conditions. I'm so thankful that I'm still confident enough to cope, but I do understand that some people can't. In a nutshell, Maw Broon, you could easily be a nervous driver, in your fifties.

Tut Tut MiceElf- now your going the other way& assuming youngsters are bad drivers! My son (20 last wkend) is youngest to have passed in our family at just 19& hes a really careful good driver- however ive witnessed myself the number of times hes been 'cut across' on rds by usually older drivers in more expensive flashier cars who dont seem to think rules like indicating etc apply to them as theyve been driving so long!SO-not all older drivers are the same,but neither are the young ones!

I am almost 64 and feel it but am lucky enough to have good genes so am told I don’t look my age.
A few times I have been reffered to as “ your Mum” when out with my young Granddaughters. My dear Son says the people who say it need to go to Specsavers. What a cheek, he should be glad he has my genes as he looks much younger than 38!

On the other hand....
When we recently took our cat to the vet's I saw a notice on the wall which said "10% discount on Consultation fees for over 65s.
I asked the Receptionist why it hadn't been mentioned before and she said it is too embarassing because people like me don't look their age and she didn't want to offend anyone.

A couple of years ago I was flying to Cuba the plane had an unusual arrangement in that the toilets were down a spiral staircase quite a novelty on a plane. However at the age of 63 after making a visit I hesitated at the bottom step before going up because a passenger was coming down the stairs , this was as the instructions told you, when the young lady behind me said in a loud voice don’t worry dear I’ll be right behind you if you slip. Sh had mistaken my hesitation for nervousness not politeness. It’s a good job I am polite because I resisted the urge to flatten her

Thanks Baggs for nothing. No. At the age of 74 most people these days are not elderly unlike our grandparents generation. I still drive long distances, even Portugal to England, alone although I admit it is more fun with company. Age is just a number and you can't lump everyone together just because of their age.
Keep on driving MawBroon and ignore the lady whose mother has given up. My DM gave up driving at the age of 70 because my Dad said it wasnt worth running a card with them living in London and having free transport. He never drove a car but she would have liked to have continued to drive. I can't ever imagine wanting to give up driving myself.