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always wanted but am i too old

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labazs1964 Sun 25-Nov-18 14:40:12

when i was a child dad always bought me fun fur teddy bear type coats for xmas. for over 30 years i have said i would love a teddy bear coat to keep me cosy as i suffer in the winter. well the other day i found one in size 16 which is my new size as i used to be 24 size its a cream colour bit of cross between citizen smiths coat and fun fur oh its gorgeous partner says he is not ashamed to go out with me in it thats just fun he doesnt mind at all he encourages me to dye my hair colour i want etc but i cant help but think am i too old for this gorgeous coat im 54

Grammaretto Mon 14-Jan-19 08:59:50

Did you get it?

RosieLeah Mon 14-Jan-19 06:55:04

I'm 70 and in the cold weather I wear a 'fun fur' with polar bears on it. It's lovely and warm and makes people smile!

Blencathra Mon 14-Jan-19 06:53:23

Not that I call 54 old!!

Blencathra Mon 14-Jan-19 06:52:57

Never too old!

jeanie99 Mon 14-Jan-19 02:42:22

54 are you kidding you're a youngster, I'm 20 yrs older than you and I wouldn't think twice about buying something that I liked.
What does it matter what other people think anyhow. It's your life and life can be short make the most of it.{smile]

EllanVannin Sun 16-Dec-18 12:48:42

Go for it. As long as it's going to keep you warm and snug why worry about others ? You'll get to a stage later on in years when comfort and not style will be key.

I was wearing all kinds of nifty clothes at 54 so make the most of it. I go out this weather looking set for the North Pole but don't care a jot so long as the cold doesn't get at me.

Fennel Sun 16-Dec-18 12:35:53

Definitely buy it!
The coats this season are very attractive, many of them furry or fluffy, and lovely colours. Not expensive either if you go to the right stores.
I would buy one, I'm much older than you, but I've already got a similar one, bought ages ago.

Buffybee Sun 16-Dec-18 11:30:48

I never think that I'm too old for fashion.
I dress in a toned down version of what is in fashion at the moment, have my shoulder length hair dyed with blonde streaks at the hairdressers every six weeks.
My Dd and Dgc and their friends usually mention how nice I look.
So if they approve, I must look ok!
Go for it ladasz, you'll look and feel fabulous.

PECS Sun 16-Dec-18 11:16:11

If it makes you happy it is the coat for you! grin

Miep1 Sun 16-Dec-18 11:12:08

Definitely go and get that coat tomorrow morning as soon as the shop opens! Then you've got all day to prance about in it; enjoy every second of happiness you can squeeze from it!

BlueSky Sun 16-Dec-18 10:45:29

Too old at 54? You are a youngster! Hope Santa will bring you that coat unless you have bought it already! tchwink

Grannyknot Sun 25-Nov-18 22:28:40

I love my teddy bear coat from Tesco (Florence & Fred, didn't realise it was a teddy bear coat until my daughter told me), I saw it, liked it, bought it. It's cosy and warm. I'm 69! smile

So yes definitely go for it, especially if you've always wanted one.

Bellanonna Sun 25-Nov-18 22:20:12

What everyone else says. I think you are probably young enough to be bothered by what others think about your decisions. I was 24 when you were born and nowadays I do exactly as I please, so I think you are hesitating because of your young(er) age. If the coat makes you happy, just go out and buy it and enjoy every minute that you wear it. Come back and tell us about it.

Bathsheba Sun 25-Nov-18 22:17:03

You're only 54, you've lost a shed load of weight (well done!!!), and you're now a trim size 16. You definitely need to start buying all the things you've been dreaming of - including this coat, which sounds fabulous!
Go on, treat yourself. You like it, your partner likes it, so what's stopping you? smile

Melanieeastanglia Sun 25-Nov-18 21:37:59

Go for it!

J52 Sun 25-Nov-18 18:42:17

Go for it! I have a faux silver fox coat, worn in the evening and an ancient curly sheep coat, glad it’s comeback into fashion. No cold, wet or wind gets through it. Now I know how sheep can stand out in the cold!

Lindy123 Sun 25-Nov-18 17:35:08

I got two guinea pigs the other day because I’d always wanted one and I’m 54. So get the coat!!!

Doodle Sun 25-Nov-18 17:31:14

54!! You're a youngster. And whatever your age if you want that coat so much, get it and don't worry about what anyone else thinks. If it brings back happy memories go for it. To be honest, these days you can wear what you like. Enjoy yourself

Luckygirl Sun 25-Nov-18 17:20:57

I used to have a faux fur jacket in very bright pink - the poor DDs used to cringe with embarrassment when I came out with them in it.

54? - a mere stripling. Just go for it.

DanniRae Sun 25-Nov-18 17:20:26

NO NOT TOO OLD!!

I am 70 and a 18 and I would buy the coat if I really liked it!
Buy it and post a photo to show us grin

valeriej43 Sun 25-Nov-18 17:17:46

My daughter is 54 and she has just got one ib a rust colour,its lovely, and i am looking for one my size, usually too big for me,Dont get one from Dorothy Perkins though, i saw a review that they shed, but my daughter got hers from zara, sale £69, but she has just come back from Spain and same coat £49

oldbatty Sun 25-Nov-18 17:08:37

Get yourself along to Debenhams personal shopper and celebrate the new you.

M0nica Sun 25-Nov-18 16:49:51

I bought a huge faux fur coat about 2 years ago and I wear it when it is cold. I am 75. At 54 you are a mere child.

Never ever even think about your age when buying or doing anything. There is nothing more dismal than 'age appropriate'

Karanlouise Sun 25-Nov-18 16:33:19

Buy the coat and enjoy wearing it, you are not too old at all. smile

MissAdventure Sun 25-Nov-18 16:28:21

I expect they were wearing fun fur coats to stay warm in there..