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For once it was nice to be invisible.

(60 Posts)
M0nica Sun 21-Jul-19 19:51:33

Why does one become invisible when one gets older? I haven't noticed older people being ignored or being ignored myself.

Is it self-inflicted?

Pantglas1 Sun 21-Jul-19 13:51:26

I agree that getting older and becoming invisible can be liberating and less is expected of us. I play to that quite often when handsome young men here in Spain offer me a seat in bars because I remind them of their grandmothers!

The other side of that of course was when I worked and attended meetings etc some younger people switched off when I contributed my tuppence worth and be ignored. Then I would smile sweetly when things ended up the way I’d suggested the would!

Gonegirl Sun 21-Jul-19 13:03:00

Ooh. Didn't know it was you on that thread merlot. (Didn't get round to reading that one)

DH did one of those. It was Christmas Day it happened. We'd been for a little walk after lunch and he was taken short for the loo! Only time in his life did he ever go over the speed limit. grin

merlotgran Sun 21-Jul-19 12:51:28

Oooh I love that T shirt.

I want one! grin

Yes, Lona. It's very liberating to just let them get on with it. I'm too long in the tooth to let them think I care.

Coz I don't!

BrandyButter Sun 21-Jul-19 12:48:45

When people have hand clapped to my son he usually replies "You want me to throw you a fish??" grin. My other son bows in appreciation when it is done to him. I wouldn't recommend either response as it can escalate the road rage .

BrandyButter Sun 21-Jul-19 12:44:40

My friend has this Tshirt and I am really considering buying myself seven and wear one every day. If you found the course informative I would just take that away with you as the benefit of the course and take no heed of immature individuals who displayed their lack of commuication skills and ignorance. You really would not want these people as your friends so do not use another second of your life dwelling on them smile

Lona Sun 21-Jul-19 12:42:36

Once you've accepted that nobody's interested in you anymore, it's quite liberating.grin

NfkDumpling Sun 21-Jul-19 12:41:02

(My speed awareness course was full of older people like myself and was more like a social tea party - except we only got one small cup of tea and one biscuit half way through.)

NfkDumpling Sun 21-Jul-19 12:39:47

I’ve quite got used to being invisible to the younger generation and now enjoy the benefits such as eavesdropping.

merlotgran Sun 21-Jul-19 12:28:45

As I mentioned on another thread, I've just done a speed awareness course. Everyone assured me it would be fine, interesting and informative etc., and they were right.

But.....I was the oldest one there by quite a long chalk. We sat at round tables and there were six men and one very glamorous young women on mine. We introduced ourselves but nobody actually spoke to me. When we took part in group discussions, the men barged in first with their opinions then turned to Miss Fancy Pants and asked, 'What do you think?' hmm

I just left them to it. It wasn't a competition or a test so there was nothing for me to gain by joining in. I'd had an early start, they didn't even give you a complimentary coffee so I couldn't be arsedbothered to comment apart from the moment when one of the men demonstrated the hand clap he likes to do when annoyed by another driver. I pointed out he would have to take both hands off the wheel to do that!

His withering glance confirmed he thought I was just some old duck who shouldn't even be on the road.

He was happy to boast it was his third course though. He looked about thirty!!

grin grin