90 yr old ‘spoiling’ our Bridge group

She’s 90. She’s going out. She’s playing. She obviously enjoys. Either all move around the tables or just accept that she is a marvellous 90 year old who is still active and socially interacting.

I know nothing about bridge so I apologise if this is a stupid comment. Is it possible to have a couple of separate tables but still in the same room for beginners and slower players? You could have her teach beginners the basics

I run a u3a bridge group which has several people who aren't as fast as they used to be. We just accept it. We are happy that they are still playing and realise that it could be us some day. If that table hasn't started their last board when most others have finished we tell them not to play it and score it as "Not played".

Thanks for all the suggestions.
I think the timer might be a good idea so I’ll suggest that to our leader.
She gets a bit flummoxed if we gently remind her to speed up.
We say ‘come on S or we’ll be in trouble. ‘.

It’s such a shame, as we don’t take it too seriously but this is getting too much .

I agree with Lathyrus - if you have enough people, set up a second tier that is time-based. She may be perfectly content to stay with a slower group. She may have no idea that she is causing problems for the group. Is she the only one who is slower, playing with a group of whizz-kids?

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Can the person moving the boards give her table 'average' score for a board if not finished when all other tables are? It's not a penalty but does draw attention to slow play. If only one or 2 boards are averaged during session it would probably allow all to be played by everyone else.
Some clubs use a timer for each round, eg 20 min for 3 boards call a warning when nearly out of time but that's not always popular!

I was going to suggest a kitchen timer!

In that way she may not realise it's just aimed at her but she might speed up.

We used to play bridge in the house and one lady, only in her late 60s,insisted on bringing her notes and going through them before bidding. It was very annoying and she just laughed when we commented and said how stupid she was.
Eventually one of the ladies left saying she was going to play with nicer people!

Or those chess timers?

Can you have an egg timer for everyone?
We had ones that did different lengths of time when the children were small.
30 seconds, 1 minute and 2 minutes I think they were

How often do you meet? Our U3a things are once a month.

Set up a second group for more advanced play, which would include time limits?

We have three bridge groups. A beginners and leisurely, an improvers and an advanced, deadly serious😬

Can the person moving the boards give her table 'average' score for a board if not finished when all other tables are? It's not a penalty but does draw attention to slow play. If only one or 2 boards are averaged during session it would probably allow all to be played by everyone else.
Some clubs use a timer for each round, eg 20 min for 3 boards call a warning when nearly out of time but that's not always popular!

Yes she is playing properly - sometimes we have to remind her if she’s ‘dummy’ or what contract we’re in but she knows what she’s doing generally. We do move around and have different partners each week but it holds the whole group up when one table is sooooo slow. There were 20 of us yesterday.

When MIL was in her late 90's she went to a few U3A bridge mornings but found the other players were not very good and very slow. So she didn't go back. That's always an option for you, I guess you move around so you are not playing with the "slow" person all the time, perhaps it's an act of kindness to just be accepting of her slowness, it may be the highlight of her week!

DH plays bridge like that and he is only 77!!! He has always been really slow (even when he was in his university team) - but good.

Is she playing 'properly'?

Yes, you can easily lose all interest.
It’s like that when DH and I play scrabble.
Mind you, I’m sure that he feels the same way about me when we play cards

That's a difficult one! Does the lady realise that she is extremely slow?

Sometimes players do ponder for a bit too long and you think to yourself 'oh, just be brave and get on with it, it's not a matter of life or death!'

But if someone is extremely slow it does make it very hard for the other three.

Maybe the organiser could have a private word with her.

Sorry, Gingster, I’m not sure if there is a solution to this!
Good luck though