A meal for later

I’m amazed by this thread to be honest. Not only is the OP babying her husband she is having to decide what he might want to eat!
Doesn’t he have an opinion at least, even if he’s not prepared to cater for himself ?

Isn’t there a guilt factor here? Op feels guilty about going out and enjoying a social life whilst dh is left at home., so leave him a meal and go off with no worries. There are loads of ready meals out there. I would look at those.

Or he could go out too. If he decides, if fit and healthy, not to have much of a social life that’s his decision and his problem. Or he could learn how to fix a simple meal for himself instead of relying on his wife.

I must have something missing, I would never dream of feeling guilty if I went out and DH was at home. Generally he is delighted when that happens

The joy of GN is finding how different people's lives are. I never realised how many marriages are still based on the woman providing all domestic services to their DH/partner until I read threads like this.

I’m afraid I’m one of them M0nica but not by personal choice. But you can’t live in warfare the whole time.

25Avalon I am not criticising, just admitting my ignorance.

My husband isn't a good cook but can manage a couple of meals. The important thing is that he would never expect me to leave him food if I was going to be out. He will make sandwiches, do a jacket potato or boil an egg.

I cook ,I enjoy it .OH doesn't cook he does lots of other stuff though that I dont enjoy.I call it teamwork .
Our freezers always have containers of home made soups ,portions of lasagne,chilli .chicken in sauces ,individual puddings and cakes .
It has worked for us for almost 48 years of marriage and we're happy with it .OP ignore the folk whosay you're infantalising your OH ,how you run yor life is your business ,you only asked for new ideas of what to leave him not a lecture on your life style

M0nica and mumsky are quite right. Anyone can learn to cook a simple meal - or enjoy a salad. It's not somebody else's duty to provide it for them.

Team work is great as long as you are a team, but its worth thinking of basic skills should you find yourself alone.

paddyann54 I suspect the OP's DH wouldn't be able to find his way to the freezer and be able to find anything he likes and reheat it. That is the problem.

I think it's more worrying that sandeye's DH has no social life at all.

Yes it's the same as a woman not knowing how to deal with finances, it leaves the person concerned extremely vulnerable.

My husband always leaves me something for lunch if he is going out, its kind and what he does. We all deal with daily living on different ways, I think sandye is probably sorry she mentioned it now.

paddyann54

I cook ,I enjoy it .OH doesn't cook he does lots of other stuff though that I dont enjoy.I call it teamwork .
Our freezers always have containers of home made soups ,portions of lasagne,chilli .chicken in sauces ,individual puddings and cakes .
It has worked for us for almost 48 years of marriage and we're happy with it .OP ignore the folk whosay you're infantalising your OH ,how you run yor life is your business ,you only asked for new ideas of what to leave him not a lecture on your life style

Indeed. No to lifestyle lectures.

It's not so much lifestyle lectures, it's surprise that they cannot even put together a basic meal.
It's not rocket science (although it is chemistry!)

What would happen if they were suddenly left on their own?
Or if the partner became ill and he needed to cook?

No to telling people what they can post.
If you post something you may not like the advice you receive. The best advice and the kindest I was ever given was not something I wanted to hear.

Callistemon21

It's not so much lifestyle lectures, it's surprise that they cannot even put together a basic meal.
It's not rocket science (although it is chemistry!)

What would happen if they were suddenly left on their own?
Or if the partner became ill and he needed to cook?

However, every family divides tasks differently.

My husband cooks very well, exceedingly well, but he won't use food that he has no idea my intentions for - he doesn't want to ruin a plan.

Likewise, I won't go in his work buildings and rummage around taking items that he may have a use for.

Just as de-cluttering, partner may have a use for an item.

Norah says …

My husband cooks very well, exceedingly well, but he won't use food that he has no idea my intentions for - he doesn't want to ruin a plan.

I just let DH know if there is food that is destined for other meals. I make lots of cakes for other people and if they are left on the side , I always put a Hands Off notice on them



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😁 what happened there, ginny!

Just as de-cluttering, partner may have a use for an item
Don't mention decluttering .....

(ginny, no problem, I've reported the pasting accident above)

Would I like somebody to leave food prepared for me - to decide what I'm going to eat? No, I certainly would not. I'm an adult, after all. What if (as is likely) I don't fancy said food? Do I give it to the dog/cat/birds, order a nice takeaway - then hide the (evidence) wrappers in the bin?

sorry ginny I shouldn't have laughed