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First love

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pollytunnel Thu 03-May-12 21:05:30

Is it true that you always love your first love?

Even years later after a loving marriage how do you feel about your first love?

Come on own up....Are the feelings still there?

Have you met again years later and realised it was all in your memories...or was it still there?????? wink

nelliedeane Thu 03-May-12 21:25:05

still in touch with him via facebook,he apologised for his bad behaviour, I accepted apology,not met in the flesh we have sparky conversations and banter,I dont harbour any what ifs,not sure about him although he is sucessful in his worklife now I dont ask about his private life.Our chance came and went we married very young and he will always be special and my first love,went on to have a 2nd marriage sucessful for 26 years,am now in another relationship each special in their own way unique,but yes still love the bugger cos he was my first

Anagram Thu 03-May-12 21:30:00

No. Not in my case.

nanaej Thu 03-May-12 21:39:59

No... but as I met my DH when I was 15 anything before that it was all very sweet and innocent!

I still adore my cousin who I had a major crush on when I was 10 to 14! He played the guitar and was in a band ...

Anmarr Fri 04-May-12 00:01:27

I have been happily married to my first love for 40 years now. We first knew each other 53 years ago. If it were possible, I would do it all over again. And yes, I do believe that you always love your first love.

Greatnan Fri 04-May-12 00:38:48

No, I don't still love any of the men with whom I was briefly infatuated. The first was a plumber of 24 - I was 16 and he very decently turned me down because I was too young. I think that rejection hardened my heart!

Grossi Fri 04-May-12 07:45:05

I met my first love at university and I see him once a year or so in the company of other friends.

I still like him more than I should but I know he is selfish, a hypochondriac and a liar, so I made the right decision to split with him. Oh and he is also Mr No-commitment. No wonder my family didn't like him!

nanachrissy Fri 04-May-12 07:48:01

No, I don't have any first love feelings,I thought that my first husband was the love of my life, but I was so wrong! shock

flowerfriend Fri 04-May-12 09:29:25

My late husband was the only man I truly loved. I was 25 when we met and we started living together five years later. I was totally infatuated with him in those early days. We had 33 years together before he died 21 months ago. Every relationship before that seems so trivial in retrospect. The infatuation grew into a very comfortable love. He was maddening at times - probably so was I - but I miss him.

Mishap Fri 04-May-12 09:31:04

Oh yes - I once met my first boyfriend via a Friends Reunited link - I went out with him from the age of about 15 to 18 - and concluded that I had a lucky escape. He was fat, bald and boorish - phew!

Annobel Fri 04-May-12 09:36:42

After being a dreadfully shy (and studious) teenager and having crushes but no relationships, I had a series of flings in my 20s each of which was 'the real thing' for a few weeks! Perhaps that's where I should have left it with my (now ex) husband - but then I wouldn't have had my sons and their lovely families. They are what have made me truly happy.

kittylester Fri 04-May-12 10:13:27

First loves are surely the way we come to know about real love. I know that any of my first loves would have come to nothing eventually and just served to show me what to look for. I found it in the current Mr Lester! Who is sometimes a pain, difficult to live with and likes jazz (sad) but is also loving, kind, loyal and a loving father. smile

I must be quite nice too as I am going to a concert at the Royal Festival Hall with him tonight.

Grannylin Fri 04-May-12 11:09:53

What about you pollytunnel?I'll spill the beans if you will!...(or is this another article in the making?)[suspicious emoticom!]

Ariadne Fri 04-May-12 11:16:56

Mmmm grannylin!

jeni Fri 04-May-12 11:34:57


GoldenGran Fri 04-May-12 12:15:14

No, No No, I married him and he turned out to be an abusive love rat.I was a bit stupid about him and we stayed together a long time and had children, but now I thank my lucky stars for freedom from him. DH number 2 is adorable, so second l ove is best for me.

pollytunnel Fri 04-May-12 22:01:55

I am 63 and have been happily married to a lovely kind man for over 40 years..I remember my first love with amazing affection and have never really gotten over him...he dropped me...

Now the tricky bit....I found him a month ago on the web...quite famous really in his own field ...just an accidental google about something I was researching....There he was pic and all.....I must admit to butterflies..I have e.mailed and received back...45 years and I still have great affection for this man..and he remembers so much about our time together...We will probably never meet up as he has a very different life to mine and a family as have I but its lovely...talking to each other about how life has turned out for us both...and I must admit to you all that it makes me feel young again and there can't be anything wrong with that can there?


flowerfriend Sat 05-May-12 09:38:56

pollytunnel WOW.

whenim64 Sat 05-May-12 09:48:47

I can't even remember much about my first love - we met when I was 14 and were together for a couple of months, then a few years later I met him and he had stayed the same size - I towered over him by several inches and felt so self-conscious next to him. He was very friendly and chatty but came across as a bit of a twerp. The man I married and divorced helped me have four beautiful children but I harbour no feelings for him, other than irritation. Can't say I've ever had that soulmate type of love, but I am enduringly and hopelessly in love with my children and grandchildren smile

glammanana Sat 05-May-12 09:54:24

When I was 13 I met my first love (crush) with a boy the year above me at school he was the captain of the football team and very popular with the girls so I was delighted to be asked out by him,it lasted about 2 months and I was heart broken when he told me it was over because his mum insisted he concentrate more at school.
I met up with him 10 years later when he came to a family party as he had a mutual friend in the family and found out that he had already fathered 3 children.When we came back from Spain I saw him in the local Town and he was fat/bald and unkempt so I think maybe I had a lucky escape but he still made me think of all those years ago when we where young.(rose tinted glasses comes to mind)

pollytunnel Sat 05-May-12 10:21:16

whenim64...thats lovely to hear...not a religous person tend to feel that eternal life is our gene pool...You have a wonderful one that will remember you for your love and care and will pass that on to future members of the pool...You can't buy the love you get from children however much money you are prepared to spend...

whenim64 Sat 05-May-12 10:29:24

pollytunnel there's nothing so special as holding your babies in your arms as they drift off to sleep, and occasionally open their eyes to grin a little 'hello' as they contentedly relax into slumber. The growing attachment I feel to my little 6 month old twin grandaughters is so compelling - I can't resist them! smile

pollytunnel Sat 05-May-12 10:42:36

You don't need a soulmate you have ALL you need...nothing like it nothing like it..

Annobel Sat 05-May-12 10:50:11

I had a hard time with my first labour so they took the baby to the nursery for the night to give both of us a rest. Then the cot was brought in to the ward and I tiptoed over to look at my new son. I understood at that moment what it means to say 'my heart went out...' I felt as though something in me had reached out and taken hold. The bond has lasted for 41 years. Second time round the same thing and 39 years later, no matter how irritated I sometimes am (he is a great arguer!), the bond is still there. And with all five GC.

whenim64 Sat 05-May-12 10:59:29

Annobel smile