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looking for a grandma for my 4 beautiful children to share priceless moments with

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SAMANTHA1234 Sat 08-Sep-12 15:24:42

hey,my name is samantha..i have four beautiful children.a boy aged 9,girl aged 8,boy aged 4,girl aged 3.they lost there last grandparent over 2 year's ago n now the only family they have is me there dad and each breaks my heart everyday seeing grandparents out with grandkid's having priceless time with them..but it also make's me smile as i no how those children feel with grandma was the most specialist person in my life and when i was with her the love and happiness she had is the thing i remember the most today..i loved her so much and i would do anything for my children to have just one day of what i had with my grandma..this is why i'a, writing this message,i need a grandma to be in there life's maybe someone who has no grandkids..they have so much love and kindness and i'am so proud of all my children..they have got me through my hardest time's and i would like to be able to give them there biggest wish of a grandma..i really hope there is someone out there who could spare there time and love to make the hearts of my children return yu would have are love respect and we would forever be thankfull for this amazing priceless gift..we live in the suffolk area just past ipswich..i thank everyone who takes the time to read this and also love to here advice..takecare..samantha smile

soop Sat 08-Sep-12 15:57:14

Samantha Your message is very touching. I hope that your request is read and responded to by the ideal person. sunshine

AlisonMA Sat 08-Sep-12 17:57:01

I hope you find someone. If there had been Internet when mine were young I would have made the same request. However, do please be careful, there are some bad people in this world and you need to check them out carefully.

Have you asked on Mumsnet? Someone there might know of a suitable person.

Nonu Sat 08-Sep-12 18:18:10

Samantha , have thought about advertising in local paper ? but be very very careful . There are some oddballs out there . smile

merlotgran Sat 08-Sep-12 18:48:46

Samantha I don't think surrogate grandparents can just be arranged like finding a reliable babysitter. Have you thought of approaching it the other way round? Is there someone near you who might be lonely and could do with a lift to the shops or meeting up for a coffee? Your children need to build up a relationship which could take ages. They might not like your choice.
Sometimes these things happen by accident. Three of my DGCs have become very fond of the elderly couple who look after their dog when they go away. This has led to icecreams on the local beach, trips to Pizza Express and so on.
As others have already said. Be very careful.

Nanadogsbody Sat 08-Sep-12 20:40:40

I think Merlot's suggestion is a wonderful idea. Age UK are always looking for volunteers to visit lonely old folk across the UK. I don't suggest you jump straight in with all your children hmm but perhaps gradually build up a relationship with an elderly person in your neighbourhood, and take it from these. Then it would be mutually beneficial. sunshine

SAMANTHA1234 Sun 09-Sep-12 12:48:46

thankyou everyone for your good advice,,am just at a point in my life were am lost and dont no what to do.coming from a loving massive family and then having no one left just make's me gutted..i dont want no one to look after my children that's my job or babysit!!i'd just like the company of an older person for chat's advice dinner night's aand a grandma figure for kid's,,i moved from a bad area in leeds to suffolk to give my kid's a better chance at life and i lost all my friend's through it..i really have took your advice in and thankyou for taking your time to write a message to me..samantha.x

soop Sun 09-Sep-12 12:56:07

Samantha...stay with us. Keep telling us how you feel. Many GNs have felt lonely for one reason or another. This forum has helped me to "come out of my shell" and express feelings that have been locked away for a lifetime. Now that you have found us lot, you'll not be alone. flowers smile sunshine

SAMANTHA1234 Sun 09-Sep-12 13:05:21

soop.that really mean's alot to me,,that's all i need is someone to talk/chat with when am feeling down or even when am happy,,like when my lil boy started reception last week.i wanted to tell the world how happy i was but i had no one to tell confused,,so thank's for that an i look forward to having some grown up chats

Nonu Sun 09-Sep-12 13:07:53

The thing of it is though, now your little boy has started school you will start making friends with the other mums, then start going round for coffee or tea, and gradualy build on that .

soop Sun 09-Sep-12 13:10:29

Samantha If I lived closer [my home is on the remote west coast of Scotland] I'd like to get to know you. As it is, there will be other members living in your area. Keep posting and I'm certain that you'll benefit from all that Gransnet has to offer. ((hugs))

SAMANTHA1234 Sun 09-Sep-12 13:12:16

i'am the shy one that stand's in corner on my own,,i need to work on my confidance..i never feel am good enough..and i just clamp up,i dont want to be like that and i am working on it but i've got to remember it wont happen over night!x

Nonu Sun 09-Sep-12 13:13:21

That is true, everything takes time .

SAMANTHA1234 Sun 09-Sep-12 13:16:25

i love this site already sunshine

soop Sun 09-Sep-12 13:17:17

Samantha, I'm prepared to bet that you are NOT the only shy person in a crowd. A warm smile goes a long way. Show genuine interest in another and in time, you will build on your self esteem. We're backing you. One small step at a time. Keep thinking postively. smile

soop Sun 09-Sep-12 13:18:35

Samantha Your last message has made my day. Well done you. flowers

SAMANTHA1234 Sun 09-Sep-12 13:19:20

soop,it sound's amazing were u live,,my dad came from scotland and i miss his scottish accent!!wink

soop Sun 09-Sep-12 13:26:22

Samantha...I'm not a Scot [more's the pity] but yes, we're lucky to live in this beautiful country. The Scots are some of the friendliest people we've ever known. Down to earth and good fun [especially after a wee dram!] wink

Littlenellie Sun 09-Sep-12 19:20:12

Hi samantha ,sorry to hear you are missing your nan,and that support network in your life.
I am an incomer to Norfolk from Essex and know how difficult it is to relocate miles from your friends and family.
Your children sound a credit to you,are you aware of any sure start centres in your area which would give you an outlet to meet people ,and I know as you have said your little boy started school last week,are the other mums friendly.
Rather than one special gran on here you have lots of us to support and give you tips and advice,and in return I am sure you have lots to offer us in return.
I may need a young mums advice on things for my teenage granddaughter,who with me I get it wrong more than right when it comes to fashion etc so perhaps you could advise me,my granddaughter is 13 you drive if we have any meetings that we organise would you be able to join us for coffee etc...
Any way hello and welcome I'm Nelliexx flowers

Nonu Sun 09-Sep-12 19:31:01

Hi nellie why did you relacate to Norfolk ? smile

Nonu Sun 09-Sep-12 19:39:33

Or even relocate !

Littlenellie Sun 09-Sep-12 19:39:50

Hi nonu we relocate d to avoid problems with E's father.E lives with me permanently...and Norfolk held fond memories of holidays when my children where growing did you end up here ? Xx

Nonu Sun 09-Sep-12 19:46:51

I am in Suffolk , one thing I will you tell u I have not even seen the the development at St Stephens , so it shows you how long ago I was there .

Nonu Sun 09-Sep-12 19:49:25

Sorry . who is E

Littlenellie Sun 09-Sep-12 19:52:51

E is my granddaughter nonu I have custody of her sunshine