looking for a grandma for my 4 beautiful children to share priceless moments with

That is true, everything takes time .

i'am the shy one that stand's in corner on my own,,i need to work on my confidance..i never feel am good enough..and i just clamp up,i dont want to be like that and i am working on it but i've got to remember it wont happen over night!x

Samantha If I lived closer [my home is on the remote west coast of Scotland] I'd like to get to know you. As it is, there will be other members living in your area. Keep posting and I'm certain that you'll benefit from all that Gransnet has to offer. ((hugs))

The thing of it is though, now your little boy has started school you will start making friends with the other mums, then start going round for coffee or tea, and gradualy build on that .

soop.that really mean's alot to me,,that's all i need is someone to talk/chat with when am feeling down or even when am happy,,like when my lil boy started reception last week.i wanted to tell the world how happy i was but i had no one to tell ,,so thank's for that an i look forward to having some grown up chats .xxx

Samantha...stay with us. Keep telling us how you feel. Many GNs have felt lonely for one reason or another. This forum has helped me to "come out of my shell" and express feelings that have been locked away for a lifetime. Now that you have found us lot, you'll not be alone.

thankyou everyone for your good advice,,am just at a point in my life were am lost and dont no what to do.coming from a loving massive family and then having no one left just make's me gutted..i dont want no one to look after my children that's my job or babysit!!i'd just like the company of an older person for chat's advice dinner night's aand a grandma figure for kid's,,i moved from a bad area in leeds to suffolk to give my kid's a better chance at life and i lost all my friend's through it..i really have took your advice in and thankyou for taking your time to write a message to me..samantha.x

I think Merlot's suggestion is a wonderful idea. Age UK are always looking for volunteers to visit lonely old folk across the UK. I don't suggest you jump straight in with all your children but perhaps gradually build up a relationship with an elderly person in your neighbourhood, and take it from these. Then it would be mutually beneficial.

Samantha I don't think surrogate grandparents can just be arranged like finding a reliable babysitter. Have you thought of approaching it the other way round? Is there someone near you who might be lonely and could do with a lift to the shops or meeting up for a coffee? Your children need to build up a relationship which could take ages. They might not like your choice.
Sometimes these things happen by accident. Three of my DGCs have become very fond of the elderly couple who look after their dog when they go away. This has led to icecreams on the local beach, trips to Pizza Express and so on.
As others have already said. Be very careful.

Samantha , have thought about advertising in local paper ? but be very very careful . There are some oddballs out there .

I hope you find someone. If there had been Internet when mine were young I would have made the same request. However, do please be careful, there are some bad people in this world and you need to check them out carefully.

Have you asked on Mumsnet? Someone there might know of a suitable person.

Samantha Your message is very touching. I hope that your request is read and responded to by the ideal person.