For 30 years my DH (soon to be ex DH) has been a mystery to me. His behaviour from the start of our relationship just didn't add up but I could never pinpoint the problem, because he is very clever at describing any problems which we have had, as my own fault. Recently, and by chance I read about Aspergers and my reaction was "That's him!" TO A T! I still feel that there is nothing I could have done because our relationship was never functioning as it should, but the problems were masked by our respective careers. It was only when we retired and were thrown together day in day out that I began to find the issues intolerable. Now we are going to part company and however much I try, I feel unable to condone his behaviour even though I strongly suspect there is a neurological cause for it.
We are having very heated debates at the moment about (his words) my attitude - but I find he is applying all his negative traits to me - I feel as though I'm in some sort of vortex, whirling around amongst complaints that I have levelled at him either privately or openly over many years. These debates aren't intended to draw us back together - they just seem to be initiated by him in order to justify himself. It is so weird. He exits the discussion looking smug and I am left in complete confusion!
Can anyone shed some light on this please?
Good Morning Good Friday 29th March 2024