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nervous disposition

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Trevor47 Thu 24-Jul-14 15:16:14

its natural to feel nervous.
But to feel nervous day and night without Just cause means something is wrong.
Unfortunately I Have That Problem.
It Means I tremble all the Time.
And when it's really Bad my head nods back and forth and it can be difficult to control it.
I Don't know why I am so nervously disposed but I'm sure there must be a reasonable explanation?
Being shy I think can make it worse.
I'm aware that there are many people in the world with similar health problems but I still feel quite alone with regard to this problem.
As far as I know I'm the only one that has it in my family?
My dear mum sadly has bad nerves now due to being diabetic and I guess her age may play a Part as Well?
She is 70.
I'd love to find a cure for this problem.
and to be able to stand up straight without any trembling at all and no longer feel embarrassed about it.
I hate seeing myself in the mirror and noticing my head nodding.
can anyone else relate to this problem?
If so how do you cope with it?

Elegran Fri 25-Jul-14 22:28:28

He had a few days of fame. Who needs more?

rosequartz Fri 25-Jul-14 22:17:14

Perhaps the poster realised he was getting nowhere? hmm

rosequartz Fri 25-Jul-14 22:15:15

I thought I was good at maths until I realised I was dysalgebraic (or whatever).

Can do a 2 liner but not a 2 pager.

Elegran Fri 25-Jul-14 22:07:10

That does not surprise me.

penguinpaperback Fri 25-Jul-14 22:06:10

The OP has left I think? I can't click on his profile although it's blue.

rosequartz Fri 25-Jul-14 22:03:44

I thought Trevor said he was 47, but could still be a student anyway.

A very funny age, Trevor, much given to introspection. Life is supposed to have begun 7 years ago but sometimes one is left wondering - why has nothing changed?

Elegran Fri 25-Jul-14 22:00:40

Jingle Surely you can't have both dyslexia and dyscalculia? Or do I mean dysalgebria?

Ana Fri 25-Jul-14 21:56:05

roses, isn't there a danger that we'd all think we were on some sort of spectrum or other if we started reading up on it?

Ana Fri 25-Jul-14 21:53:34

(To jingl, obviously!)

Ana Fri 25-Jul-14 21:52:59

Can't remember. Anyway, I thought it was dyslexic you'd just become.

rosesarered Fri 25-Jul-14 21:52:08

I think there are a lot of adults out there who were never diagnosed with autism/Aspergers and are somewhere on the spectrum.Reading up on it could help adults greatly.They would then know that far from being alone and feeling like an alien, there are lots of people out there who feel the same.If you can understand yourself, it brings about acceptance, and will help families. There are also groups to join.
I used to be able to do algebra, but have forgotten it entirely now !

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 25-Jul-14 21:45:18

I can add up quite quickly.

But I can't do algebra. Can anyone do algebra?

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 25-Jul-14 21:44:00

!!! I could be autistic!!!

Bit late to effing discover it now. hmm

Ana Fri 25-Jul-14 21:40:35

And an uncanny aptitude for role-playing - you'd be an asset to your local AmDram Society.

Elegran Fri 25-Jul-14 21:34:38

Joining a group putting on amateur theatricals would do wonders for your nerves, Trevor. You have a natural gift for thespianism and self-projection.

rosesarered Fri 25-Jul-14 21:14:38

Trevor have you done any reading about Autism and Aspergers?You may be on the autistic spectrum. Autism can mean you are very shy and not too good with people around you, also good at maths.Look into this, because if it fits you, there is medication to help [Jingle has already mentioned it] and it would help your understanding of yourself.

Trevor47 Fri 25-Jul-14 19:16:26

your right Jingle.

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 25-Jul-14 19:06:03

I think you can attend college courses at any age. I may be wrong.

Trevor47 Fri 25-Jul-14 19:04:16

yes I am Tricia and I enjoy it very much in fact.

TriciaF Fri 25-Jul-14 18:36:14

On another thread Trevor said he was a college student.

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 25-Jul-14 18:06:13

hmm

try reading the posts?

TriciaF Fri 25-Jul-14 18:02:36

Trevor grin
20 yrs clean - I thought you were a college student?
Maybe a mature student.

Soutra Thu 24-Jul-14 18:12:52

Oops pardon me for asking jingl! Is anybody here an expert on alcohol and cannabis abuse then?

Trevor47 Thu 24-Jul-14 16:33:43

I made the mistake of trying to be like my dad and so I would try to put on this serious don't mess with me look
but that was just a Front Jingle
The truth was I was so shy and insecure behind it all...and very unhappy.
I think I learned too late that it is OK to be me nerves and all.
after all no one is perfect.
even the great jazz drummer buddy rich wore a wig to cover his baldness.
and when I think about that now I wonder why he didn't except his physical flaws and just carry on with his career rather than hiding it behind a wig?
I can only presume it was due to male pride or even a bit of shyness somewhere?

Trevor47 Thu 24-Jul-14 16:28:33

Well That's something I didn't know before
so thank you for enlightening me Jingle.
even now as I sit typing I can feel myself trembling.
and my head nodding as usual.
I think this is why I'm so sensitive and I worry what people will think of me if they notice me trembling?
Just seeing myself in the bathroom mirror everyday is painful.
the only thing I feel good about is that people say I look young for my age and That I'm cute ; 0 )
I just wish I didn't have this nervous problem and wasn't so shy.