How can I help my daughter?

Some people just don't realise how lucky they are.

I'm afraid I agree with thatbags I waited ages for a child and would have been glad of anything! As it happened my son was (and is) perfect. He has two sons and I can honestly say that again I just wanted them to be healthy - I have never felt that I missed out on a granddaughter. Every child is precious and deserves to be welcomed 100%. I don't think I would be very sympathetic - the best I could do is put it down to hormones!

Oh I do feel for her. My husband didn't speak to me when my daughter was born because he wanted a son, so I was relieved to have a son next time. He said years later that he would have had a house full of daughters and not minded. When I found that my daughters second child was going to be another boy [now ex; the marriage never recovered from it]I suddenly understood how he had felt at the time because all of his thoughts of train sets and father/son things had gone out of the window. I was desperate for a grandaughter , and felt guilty from the minute the second child was born; also didn't feel as close to him as I had the first child. However, 4 years later the love I feel for him is so intense; he is so different to his brother and has somehow made me love him, not because he is my grandson but because he is 'him'. Your daughter can't help what she feels and at least it's good that she can talk it through [my husband never discussed his desire for a son till the baby was born; in fact I don't think he even thought about it till then]. She'll love the baby when he's born; the hormones will work their magic.

Have you tried saying "Don't be so silly!" ?

Not really got any advice madq hopefully she'll come round to your way of thinking and count her blessings once she's got over her 'shock'. I had two girls before my son was born and I must admit as it got closer to my 3rd childs arrival I was concerned it would be another girl and my husband would be disappointed but no doubt we would of been just as pleased with the birth of a healthy girl should it of happened that way once he got over his intial disppointment. Does her husband realise how disappointed she is and even share her dismay?