Thanks so much for all your replies, much appreciated.
My son should be back in May, he has been away since the end of March, so let us hope all will change then, as my DL must be missing him.
Also, I seem to remember hearing him say to his daughter:
'If you stay downstairs at night we can get out at the w/e more often'
After he left she was enjoying sleeping with her mum, but I believe now she has remained in her room at night, so hopefully it will get better.
To give you some idea of how my two were brought up, although I expect I will get replies -- 'YOU DID WHAT!
From an early age we took them to the Lske District etc walking then being carried on our backs. Later on camping.
I sent our younger son on an YMCA holiday for a week when he was 10 yrs of age.
When they were both 14 they went on Outward Bound Courses, which was the making of them both. Did any of you put your kids on one of these courses?
Before they studied for their GCE, one did an exchange visit and the other went on a youth sailing trip. Besides of course the school trips, one scouting trip and naturally family holidays
Despite all I have been keeping quiet and not interfering at all. She won't be able to be in her pyjames next week as she is sharing a birthday party.
This evening it seemed to go down well, when I mentioned to my DL, in an assertive way; that the others in her form are now wearing their summer uniform, which they haven't bought yet, so she said she would sort that out at the w/e.
All the best and thanks again,
Cath
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