Help! I don't know what to do. I remarried two years ago, most of my family don't like him but accept him for my sake. However, his behaviour towards my grandchildren is nasty, offensive and hurtful.
He insults all of them when we are alone together and doesn't care that this upsets and offends me.
Yesterday, I looked after 2 of my grandchildren, a brother and sister of 4 and 1 years old. The elder (a boy) has difficulty hearing and speaking, making it difficult to make out what is being communicated either way. He needs a lot of patience and understanding. Throughout the day, my husband was getting frustrated and angry with him. When we were getting them out of the car at their parents house, I told the boy to wait til his sister was out of her chair and get out of the car on the pavement side. Husband decided to get the girl out of her car seat - by holding one leg and one arm! She started to struggle and cry, the boy was worried and wanted to get out of the car. I intervened and got the girl out, then carried her to her mum. While doing that, my husband shouted "stop bl**dy winging!", slammed the car door shut in his face and stormed off. I had to get to the child quickly to reassure him, carry him (sobbing) to his mum.
I made husband very aware that his behaviour was unacceptable to anyone, least of all towards a delicate 4 year old. He stomped off.
My son saw all this happening from an upstairs window and was so incensed with anger, he dared not confront his stepfather - he would have punched him!
Not surprisingly, my son and his wife are not keen on letting the children come anywhere near him now.
What the heck do I do?
