In my experience, being the centre of attention is not a good thing. Girls in our family have been this, in different families and only bad things have come out of it. My niece was the first born grandchild on both sides (thorugh my husband) and she was worshipped, even though she ended up with 3 other siblings. Unfortunately, probably due to her not being used to anyone arguing with her or saying no, she overdosed accidentally in her 20's and died after an argument with her boyfriend. Not good to have been put on a pedestal. My sister, being 15 years younger than me, was always around grown ups and never got told no, hence her expectations have always been the red carpet treatment. My daughter, being nine years her brother's senior and spoilt by us due to my having a miscarriage when she was 4 years old, has also ended up with great expectations and no one saying no to her. Whe she was at home, she would talk at me, not to me.
I would try and nip this in the bud. I would have done things so much differently if I had my time over again. My grandma brought us up with the "children should be seen and not heard". Not that they shouldn't have a voice these days, but I do think we pander to them just a bit too much.
Old sayings with a theme 2 ( continuing *nanna8*'s thread)