Proud Gran

Anya is not saying there's anything wrong about being proud of your grandchildren.

My boys did well at primary then hit adolescence and rebelled themselves out of much in the way of qualifications!! They have made up for it since thank goodness. I think sadly, the rule is keep quiet and let others do the boasting. I do have certain friends who love to tell me about their offspring, I just oo and ahhh.

OP sorry 'your grandson's) as far as I know we have no GC in common!!

I gave up marking KS2 English SATs when they moved so far away fronm the literacy I had been encouraging in pupils and students for 50 years.
One year I was asked to talk to Y6 about what I'd look for in marking. I relaxed the pupils and incensed the Literacy Coordinator by mentioning that their new secondary schools would assess them themselves next term anyway and that SATs were intended as a test of the school, not the children.
OP - I understand how pleased you are at our grandson's success. When my then 7 year old first grandson got 5 for KS2 Maths I told few people and only one colleague, a close friend, at the junior school where I taught. I shan't share the more recent results he and my subsequent grandchildren achieved, exams aren't everything.

You're all heart jingl

I think I probably do go on about my grandkids. I try not to do it too much but inevitably they are a large part of my life so there's usually a mention in here and there.

I'm sorry if I bore you - switch off...I don't mind

Equally , I actually do want to hear about my friends families including their grandkids. Its sharing their joys and happiness in my opinion and also being able to help and support when things are less rosy .

So congrats to you OP - why wouldn't you be proud of his achievements !

I am very happy for you Rafichagran. I can find nothing wrong in your post. Anya's response is way OTT. Well done to your grandson for coping so well.

Dux prix? Come on the drakes!

'prix'? No, this was a Scottish academy, not a French Lycée!

When I was a child, my granny was always going on about my cousins' musical achievements. I learnt to play the piano and still can't. I don't know what she said about me to them when I got the dux prix in the sixth form. I hope she was proud of me. Unfortunately she died before I got a degree - a better one than either of my cousins! All I can say is, let them know you're very proud of them, as I did my GD2 just last week.

I have posted about my Grandson once, and stand by it, however I do not go on about my Grandchildren, unless people ask me or I am with like minded people. I am still at work, and have friends who are younger than me and friends who do not have Grandchildren. I am very aware thatthey do not want to listen to me talking about my family all the time, hence they are still friends. Also from a different perspective I sometimes get bored with people talking about other things, e.g. their wonderful homes. I respect there right to talk about it, just I find it boring.

Anya Newsflash! The less able children aren't actually going to read this thread. (stop worrying about them)

This is Gransnet. (For grans) It's not a cruise ship!

This post reminds me of a cruise DH and I went on.

We had a shared table for our evening meal and you had hardly sat down before someone started wittering on about their wonderful,marvellous,brilliant dead clever children or grandchildren.

Next time it's a table for two!!!

Nor, do you know me rafi but that didn't stop you posting some rather strange things about me.

I get that you're proud. That's fine. Not the issue. In fact if you'd said ' that's a bit harsh Anya' I might even have agreed with you.

But you could have written that post in a very different way and still have expressed your pride, without hinting that a child only needs the correct 'attitude' to succeed.

I endorse a 'can do' approach to life, it means a great deal. BUT in my wide and varied teaching career I have come across so many different children, that my heart goes out to those who want to succeed, who try their damnedest and never quite make the grade. Doomed as failures at 10 or 11.

I'm pleased for your GS. May he continue to succeed - I mean that genuinely.

like you annsixty I hate being told every little detail if I want to know I will ask. I know someone who does nothing but go on all the time about what her kids have or havent done. At the coffee mornings she repeats it to everyone that comes through the door shes like a flippen parrot it does my head in!!

Jingls I think DGD's teacher would have been calm, pragmatic and kind and treated the tests as nothing out of the ordinary, can't blame her.
However, some of the parents discovered example papers online and had their DC 'practising' beforehand, then wondered why they were so anxious.

In reply to the post which said that she knew a proud Gran who was tedious, showing photograph ext, let's get one thing straight, I do not do this and I never have done, I do not have the time, I posted my pride in my Grandson that is all, I have not done this before. As for you Anya, you do not know me, if my Grandson had got grades that were much lower I still would have posted, it was the way he conducted himself that I was so proud off. I have every understanding of children who try hard and as you put it don't make the grade. I was just proud of my Grandson and was pleased to say it.

I have rethought and actually feel quite sad at the reaction that rafichagran has had from a few people here. I hope GN is not getting more like the "other place" perhaps , Haven't we all rejoiced in our DGCS' achievements and perhaps spoken first and felt dashed afterwards because others don't share our happiness?

There is a massive difference between being proud of your C/GC and telling everyone every detail as stated above. I have a friend like that, her son is 50 now and with him and his own C and her other GC I await the phone call on any results day. I and her other friends never need to ask , we are told. That is what I don't like, and I don't apologise for my feelings.

Originally these SATS were supposed to assess the schools, not the individual children. The children were to hardly notice that they were being examined. The head teachers are most likely the ones responsible for the angst.

BadenKate I've just dropped the GC at school and sat down in Costa to read your link. Getting some strange looks as I nearly inhaled my flat white!

Thanks for the laugh

When my Grandaughter did her year two stats, none of the class really knew they were doing them, her teacher made it a fun day took them off to the library at the school a few at a time and they just got on with it. Mind you she was and still is a great teacher,actually head of the school now and still finds time to teach. No I don't like stats but not everything in life is easy and children today can be mollycolled. My grandaughter is 15 now gone off to school with the strops because she is tired and didn't want to go but that's life isn't it we have to teach them that this is the way it is.

Of course proud grandmothers (and grandfathers) like to tell everyone about the achievements of their grandchildren. I must admit that when I read the OP, it did remind me of the dreaded Christmas Round Robin letter. So for those of you who are still 'blessed' with these, I thought you might enjoy Lynne Truss's imagined replies: www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20810452

Exactly Wilma ... It's nothing to do with being a proud gran, but everything to do with suggesting that those who couldn't hack it simply ought to chance their attitude.

Have a little understanding of children who try their hardest but still don't make the grade.