My DD has a house and previously lived with her child's father but for a number of reasons there was a split up.
DD then took up with another man. He was never seen by family but we understood that he was coming to the house.
DD had female friends who had children of similar age and they all spent a lot of time together and with their children. They would babysit to cover for each other etc.
Since the new BF has moved in and has been introduced around things have changed. The female friends are no longer around. Therefore DGC no longer sees those little friends. DGC is now babysat by a relative of the new boyfriend.
DD seems to be even more short of money than she was previously and we al knew that the previous partner had addictions. This new BF seems to be awful fond of drink. I have seen opened bottles of drink lying around the house. He has sat around while DD and I tried to deal with the very over grown garden. He has done nothing useful to help with the house and garden. DGC gets shouted at for crumbs etc. in the car but the BF was "morning after the night before" and cucked up in the car. The new BF does not get shouted at for anything but DGC and I are constantly shouted at.
I am divorced but speak to ex. He has made various comments re the BF. They used to go there for dinner once a week but no longer go but spend that day with the BF relative. (Not his parents)
I used to do a lot of the babysitting but that has been stopped. I was on FB with DD and mysteriously got cut off from her. DD said she did not do it. This happened after the BF found that DD and I had joined something as joint partners.
Everyday very early in the afternoon DD charges off to collect the BF on his way home from work. This means that we cant do anything like go out for a drive or a day's shopping. I don't know if this is her choice or a demand from him. As an adult I would expect him to be able to travel home from work. There is no point in phoning texting or in any way contacting DD after early afternoon or all weekend as there is unlikely to be a reply. I know that DGC spends most of the afternoon and evening in their bedroom and without the computer stuff.
Previously DD was quite good at keeping in touch with her dad and me especially given that we live a fair distance apart.
I have not even been allowed to be alone with the DGC for several months despite having been the babysitter. We used to have such fun together, I have also noticed a very worrying change in DGC since the new BF came on the scene.
I am fed up with having such difficulty in communication with my DD and I am fed up with DGC and me being the butt of the shouting and bad tempers while the BF can do no wrong apparently. If I am feeling this upset since the changes the BF has caused I can only imagine what the DGC is going through in their child mind.
It breaks my heart more for the child than me. I wonder what DD had got herself into this time.
Any suggestions welcome.
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