Grandma, where's Mummy gone

We always did the waving goodbye and I also put lots of toys out before arrival so we could turn from the window and get down on the floor (could do it then) and have a play before breakfast. A trip out at some point during the day.

Enjoy the time. I love looking after my x4 grand children.
The diffrent young children act differently to being left with Grandma.
I often say mummy/daddy has gone and it is grandma now to our grandson when he looks around. He might go to the door for a few minutes then starts to play.
The oldest grandchild is 6 and only got upset when she got tired at bed time. I sorted this with a half an hour on the sofa with book = quiet time in the afternoon. Not so over tired and she accepted bed time better.
We split our time with child's choice of what activity and grandma's needs to house things.

Spend as much time with her as possible before September & make sure you are left alone with her too.If your daughter can go out briefly & leave you with her so much the better. I found that the crying ( although usually only if they were a bit under the weather) soon stopped when they spotted the toy box & we sat on the floor to play together.It is very useful having a box of toys that live at Grandma's & stay there for next time when they leave.Now they cry when they have to go home!!

I avoided opening this thread- as it sounded so so sad. So glad to read it isn't what I thought it might be- Pheeeew.

Grandjura - I thought the same at first!

Good luck ! Has your gd been spending time with you on her own before now ? If not ....may not be too late ! My daughter spent a lot of time with grandma from a very young age (all the aunties used to visit, and grandad was retired ..the next door neighbour would pop in as well, so she was used to seeing different faces !) ....but when she went to Kindergarten aged 3 she yelled every time I tried to leave ....and this worried me ! However, the teacher said 'as soon as your back is turned, she is fine ....rushes over to play with the others'.....distraction techniques seemed to work ! A lot of my friends look after grandchildren of different ages for different times, and they report no problems ....just try to spend some time preferably alone, with her prior to Sept 1st and I am sure everything will be fine !

When I use to visit my son after work on a Friday, his 2 year old would say I am packed and I am coming to stay with you nan... Never had the heart to say no... But of course she was 2 and not 10 months! Now she contacts me on Facebook saying she's coming to stay!

It might not be to everyone's taste, but make CBeebies your friend!! I've had my grandson 2 days a week since he was 3 months old. Recently he had to come every day for 3 months, as my daughter was doing a school placement for her teaching degree. He was then just over 2, and although I never had any problems with him before, every day it was a bit of an issue being at Grandma's AGAIN! He used to cry when mummy went to work, so this is what we did.
I'd have a drink and a biscuit ready upstairs, she'd bring him in and bring him upstairs to me. "Ooh look, grandma has a biscuit for you (She rarely has biscuits at home!) He'd be distracted by that and CBeebies, she'd quickly say goodbye and go. He used to ask where's mummy gone, I'd say to work and she'd be back soon, ooh look what the Teletubbies are doing!
I'm back to having him 2 days a week now, mostly so he doesn't lose the habit of coming round here during the school holidays, but in September I'm having him 3 days a week. Even though he comes round later now, he still wants me to be upstairs with his drink, biscuit and the Teletubbies, so if I've already got up I have to go back upstairs to wait for him so he can find me!
He's 3 next month and quite vocal, but he never cries now when mummy goes to work. Distraction techniques are the way to go!

LOL MANY THANKS DEEDAA [WINK]

Wow, thank you ALL for your tips. Trips to day nursery for short stays (she will be going three days a week) have not proved successful and very distressing for lovely dil to hear the crying. She will be with me for one and other Grandma for one day. Not spent as much time one to one as would like as I am still working full time til the end of August then working for four days. Toy box is full with more on the way. CBBC will be on standby and shhhhhush dare I say a packet of chocolate buttons in Grandma's cupboard. Mummy need never know. Distraction techniques were always a fav of mine when the boys were little.

Subsequent short but getting a little longer each time trips to the day nursery are getting better. Like the idea of waving bye bye and then breakfast. 3 full days at Nursery start week after next so progress is being made.

Regarding nursery-when my grandson started at nursery it happened to fall on my watch, when I was looking after him every day for the three months of my daughter's teaching placement.
He cried every time I took him there, cried in the car on the way, cried when I was waiting to be let in at nursery, cried when they took him off. I'm glad it was me who was taking him as if it had been my daughter it would have broken her heart. Mind you, she was the same when she was little!
I used to ring nursery to check he was ok later in the day and every time he would be fine after I'd gone. One day I had to stay and do some form filling, he thought I'd gone and shut up completely, little bugger!
He was fine after a couple of weeks, the bright, breezy and brief goodbye scenario is the way to do it (tho I did feel very upset as he was clinging to me and crying) . We've all been there before, just harden your heart and smile! X

I do think small children of nursery age are quite capable of making a fuss to impress their parents.

Grannabyis right. Never just disappear just a quick kiss a wave goodbye and go with a "see you later." then distract.