Glad I'm NOT a grandparent

Not " grans in general", Ana

Jessielovestuna Sat 01-Oct-16 01:18:03
I am glad you enjoyed your time at the zoo Elegran,but can't you see that the 2016 posters on Gransnet are not how they used to be

If she could never fill her boots that means she knows what the other person was like:
"Filling someone's shoes" means doing the job that they used to do. You use this expression when the first person did a good job.

But she could just have meant that grandparents have changed these days, in that they're not the cuddly old dears our own were (well, one pair of mine was!)

And others that she does. FFS for example? Not conclusive, I know, and scanty evidence thus far. Yes, the "I could never fill her boots" was a bit misleading. But again, a ploy perhaps? Jessie comments on how GN in 2016 has changed, but she's a newcomer. Or is she?

Jessielovestuna uses some words that jingl never uses (e.g. 'dotes')

Of course, that could be part of the cunning plan...

I am a simple soul and clearly slow on the uptake. Plus when a person says something like;

No roses I am not Jings. I could never fill her boots

I tend to assume they are telling the truth

I like the name, too !

Hi, J.

Ah, I see now.

Post yesterday 23.50 bit unusual for a newcomer ????

For sure, Jalima !

Zoo?

I loved this song, still have it somewhere on an LP:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=iTe9rhLC2XE

Oh! I get it now!



is that the right response?

jessielovestuna has observed that poster on GN are not what they used to be? Could you elaborate on that? In what way and, more importantly when?
I ask as I have come across your name for the first time in the last few days - surely we have not change that much in 72 hours?
Or perhaps you have been here before under another username?

What is different about Gransnet as it was four or five years ago and as it is now is the size. It is now in the same league as Facebook and Twitter (not so far up the league, but it is wellknown and frequently quoted in the nedia).

Facebook and Twitter contain a lot of stuff that is really only there so that someone can see their posts and the responses to them as they happen. The temptation to post something and see what replies you get is very strong. It is easy to join and use, there are no filters for age, and you get an instant audience of grans - who, let's face it, have this image of being easily shocked and ultra-conservative (small c). And you don't need to be there in person to discuss your opinion, you can sit back while others get hot under the collar defending or attacking it.

So there are more posts now of that nature. Some are from people who go on to discuss what they have posted, and to join in other conversations, some are never heard from again, for one reason or another. Among those are a few whose motives are suspect.

Jessielovestuna I don't quite see the link between going to the zoo and your "but . . . . posters on Gransnet are not how they used to be" Is it that posters used to go to the zoo but now they are too grown-up to do that? Zoos these days are not how they used to be either - they are about information and conservation, not about taking children to gawk at terrified animals in boxes with iron bars on the front.

Have you noticed how a few threads have been started, then the original poster shrinks away never speaks again and leaves everyone to argue between themselves Is this a ploy?

Or, as DH says:
Light Blue Touch Paper and Retire

We had a friend who was an expert in this, and MIL was quite good at it too

I get it now bluebelle.

I'm a simple soul, I very much take things at face value.

I think Blue Belle has got it in one.
Has the cat been set among the pigeons? Not from where I'm sitting

I think what I'm trying to say to all you grandparents out there is that there are people like me who are not worried in the slightest that they do not have grandchildren, have plenty of other things to do in retirement and are not selfish/ miserable/ peculiar

And, so what?
It annoys me when people "invent" a premiss to argue against.
All I would say to OP is that it's not all about you. If we choose not to have children, that is our business, if we do and they choose not to have children that is theirs.
Guess what, there are ^plenty of people here and elsewhere who do not give a fig do not care whether you have grandchildren OR NOT.

Granny knot that's not actually what I meant I do wonder sometimes if someone posts just to be controversial and has no intention of actually engaging or maybe they post don't get the answers they want and disappear
Nothing wrong with getting fed up and moving to so thing else though I agree

How,about being a mother of 2children one of who is ignored by my mother ,made me wonder .I'm.grandma.now and love my grandson .When he was born I felt a stab of love and sheer joy .I'm not a push the children in front of others,I just fell sad that the op might miss,out on the joy ,yet may be its frustrating to those who would love to be grand parents,and.are at a distance so it's better perhaps ad another poster said ,that feelings,and the children's coincide .To bring s child into the world and then distance it is personally I feel wrong.Having experienced that for my self and my children I had to learn about how to mother my children ,made,a few mistakes .however have kept trying .

Aggie, Me and Shakespeare! Nail on head.

bluebelle I haven't noticed that. But what's wrong with giving up on a thread when it becomes boring is no longer interesting, whether you were the OP or someone who posted a response? I do it all the time

Have you noticed how a few threads have been started, then the original poster shrinks away never speaks again and leaves everyone to argue between themselves Is this a ploy ?