A lot of sad stories here and much food for thought, but this seems to me to be symptomatic of a wider issue.
One of the underlying problems is that in the UK, grandparents have few if any rights, and are therefore vulnerable to all kinds of pressure from relatives – the situation is complex, and in my experience, no two situations are the same. However, possibly that is set to change. I am part of a group campaigning for the rights of grandparents to have contact with their grandchildren (as is the case in France), and although no firm date has been announced, a national petition is shortly to launch on the Petition Parliament website, calling for the grandchildren and grandparents to have rights of contact. The aim is to obtain the 100,000 signatures required for the issue to be considered for a Parliamentary Debate. This petition has been started by Lorraine Bushell of the Hendon Grandparents Group, with the support of her MP Dr Matthew Offord, and on 31st January many of us attended a Parliamentary Lobby Day at the House of Commons. A number of distinguished people were present, including Dame Esther Rantzen, and representatives from grandparents’ support groups across the UK, both affiliated to the national organisation Grandparents Plus, as well as independent groups. There have also been calls for the requirement for Leave of the Court to be scrapped, if grandparents take the matter to court. Watch this space and keep your eyes open for media coverage.