We are devistated, I don't know where to start. But need help,my daughter has got with this man who is very controlling to the point that he isolates her from everyone and then disappears leaving her to cope alone. She has had two Lil angels in quick consesion eg 11 months apart. Aged 2 and 1.
Whilt isolated with two very young children and with a history of drug abuse she turned to alcohol 24/7 and began huffing butane gas, eg 10 a day to cut a very long story short.In August 2016 We and my other daughter were given the girls by social services and a care plan was put in place. The girls flourished and began to thrive and interact with many things as we cared for them. We were told the girls would be returned about January 2018, if all plans had been achieved by the parents, eg drug free parenting classes ect.
Social services supported my daughter in getting a bigger council house and we thought things were going to plan.
However, he stopped me and gran gran from attending meetings and started making up stuff about us and the daughter that was actually caring for the girls. He has narsistic tendencies, which the social worker has not noted and has been taken in by him and has supported all his wishes. At the time we had the girls so I knew they were safe with us. They started having contact alone for couple hrs couple times a week, and on the day of my daughters move to a 3bed house, we asked them to have the girls from 10am to 4pm in order that they would not witness the disruption of the move. All good moving forward looking forward to more room and a big garden for them to play in. This was May 5th 2017, a day that distroyed me, half way through the move we had a phone call saying the girls would not be coming back as the parents had actioned their parental rights and refused to return them. Social Services said their hands were tied and could only support them.
This is where it all went horribly wrong. Of course we still needed to see the girls but gran gran and myself were refused any contact, ss supported this!!! And my daughter and her husband and son who had cared for them for 9 mths were only allowed supervised contact.
We have tried to get contact but each time they and social services have put a wall up. And still will not give reasons as to why they allowed those angels to be dragged from pillar to post without giving valid reasons. The sw just goes along with their father as he's very good at manipulation and cover ups. But we need to know they are safe and that she will not be isolated again and history repeat it's self. So we have filed an arrangement order with the case being heard 29th Aug, I have prepared the papers as best I can and we are doing this alone without a solicitor. But we are all so worried for the girls and it can't come soon enough in the hope the judge and caffcass do the right thing and let's our bond with the girls continue.
A. I feel their is an obligation by ss to facilitate contact or to maintain it, am I right ?
B.Ifa care plan is in place can it just be disregarded at the wishes of those with pr even though there was clearly a need for it to be followed ?
C. I have asked for contact every Sunday and once a mth a fri to Sunday stay over and to give our continued support should it all go belly up again.Will we get this?
As you can see we are all so worried and know nothing, I'm trying to get as many reports and statements from police health visitor ect to back up us having contact, as the court have asked the sw for her recommendations which we feel will be no contact as they are being manipulated by the father. We as their maternal grandparents really want to be part of their lives and mix the sweethearts so so much, emotionally we are all wrecks so we dread to think how this has affected the girls, they must be traumatised, but all we get is there are no professional concerns, which tell us nothing... Please help with any information that can help us to see our angels. Thank you.... Nanny and gran gran xxx7
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