WOW Britgran I ask myself similar questions all the time and even question if it is MY fault
Yet then why would I have one daughter who is married , settled , works as a teacher , has some lovely friends , interacts with other couples and her life is filled with baby showers and baking and 'Mum' things to do with my lovely 5 year old Granddaughter and has no mental health issues / me have any worries or concerns whatsoever!??
And the other ...
Expelled from school , dropped out at 15 after tons of truanting , always mixing with the wrong crowd , left home early as she could not abide any rules whatsoever , in trouble with the law , doing overloads of alcohol and drugs , arrested and charged with drink driving and failing to give a breath sample TWICE , on TAG TWICE for criminal damage and assaulting a police officer ( while being a Mother to my Grandson ) has a variety of mental health issues including depression , acute panic attacks and bulimia as well!
You ask her how she is and she says she is fine and does not need any help , she self medicates with cannabis which of course I feel makes her mental health worse and she currently has a dodgy boyfriend who seems out for himself mainly
I am raising my Grandson and have been for 2 years but she is fighting to get him back now but nothing inward has actually changed imo , just the external stuff like getting a flat and a job BUT I always have my worries and concerns about her ( especially if my Grandson is returned ) so I do not know what the future holds ... She nearly DIED from blood loss from a torn esophagus due to violent vomiting after poisoning herself with alcohol and then not giving time for the operation on her throat to heal before drinking excessively again
She has hepatitis , liver damage and a stomach ulcer all at the age of 31 but says she has cracked her alcoholism etc now , is doing fine , does not need any help or counselling and is ''100% definitely getting her son back!'' whereas I am having kittens over it and trying to give my Grandson a stable life while he deals with all the emotions surrounding the love he still has for his Mum and then recently starting to trust her again and Lord what is it going to do to him if / when she fails him again?
Me / us as Grandparents picking up the pieces again , as usual xxx