How do i deal with a troubled son

he's a troubled soul and all you can do is be there when he needs you.Mental illness is unpredictable ,he may have no idea what he's doing or the consequences as he just lashes out at the nearest person.He needs professional help ,speak to your GP and see if they can offer a solution ,his GP might be willing just to drop in at home and see him so he can assess the problem.

My heart goes out to Britgran and Nannynoo.

When children raised in good circumstances end up as troubled adults we have to wonder whether an abherant gene is responsible - part of the ' 80% Nature etc...'

Studies of certain types of mental illness have revealed genetic 'abnormalities.'

It's no consolation for the parents but at least it is a possible expiation for their children's' behaviour.

Parents and grandparents living within situations outside our control is painful and sometimes feels frustrating and hopeless. If we are willing, there are 12 Step fellowships which help support and guide us how to live calmly while negotiating these stormy waters. In meetings people who have similar experiences meet and honestly share these experiences and coping strategies.

Overeaters Anonymous for people with eating disorders and Families Anonymous and Al Anon for parents and grandparents of other addictions. I have found these fellowships life savers.