Just another thought. If you feel a bit like a spare whatsit at a wedding during those first weeks and months while the new little family are settling in ( that's how I felt at times anyway) would it be a good idea to make them a meal and take it round ,, any excuse for a quick cuddle . Planning it with daughter first may be a good idea but I know our son and daughter in law were always either too busy , too tired or just plain old enjoying their new addition to even think about cooking dinner most evenings.
I've got another 'keen'... Ouch!