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Luckygirl Thu 26-Oct-17 09:41:40

She is being 19 I guess! Probably in love! Not ideal and feels hurtful.

I think you need to keep your communications with her light-hearted; if she feels she is under scrutiny for her behaviour she will back off further.

Coolgran65 Thu 26-Oct-17 09:36:25

I'm so sorry, you must feel quite hesrtbroken. At present there is maybe nothing you can actually do but wait. Give dgd time to mature and hope she finds her way to your door. I'm not sure that I'd continue with such generous gifts which she is taking for granted. Perhaps a card with £20. Or a small gift rather than money.

I would feel upset also but are you going to let her treat you this way.
A little appreciation is so heartwarming.
It may be that nothing will change unless someone (you) makes a change.

mumofmadboys Thu 26-Oct-17 09:35:10

Could you try phoning her and asking if she is free for a chat? Keep it light hearted. If she says she is busy ask when a good time would be to try again. Good luck

marylane1996 Thu 26-Oct-17 09:22:12

I have always had a great relationship with my 19 year old granddaughter and was quite upset when I gave her a hundred pound for her birthday and got no thank you for it. One kind person replied that I shouldn't have nagged her but asking once if she had had time to spend it is hardly nagging. I haven't spoken to her since June but have sent a couple of texts just saying HELLO and no reply. I received one reply in July saying it was nothing I had done and she was fine and would call me that weekend. She didn't. Its my birthday next week and I know she wont send a card as she hasn't in the past she just lies and says it must have got lost in the post or she will hand it to me when she sees me. My relationship with her mother is fractured and I cant talk to her as her mental health issues cause her to fly off the handle. I am so sad about this as my GS always shows great appreciation for gifts though he is a good deal younger at 11. Any suggestions ladies as I feel she has just walked out of my life