Grandchildren

Oh dear I have a G/c who is the same ...,
No boundaries and no respect for elders.
I could pull my hair out at times but I keep button lipped until it goes to far then I correct.
You reep what you sow ....,
I agree

Your poor GC Stella & your Son!

Thank you for all your responses.

Two of my grandchildren are like this, they are 8 and 12. My son is a single father, who had a huge horrible break-up 5 years ago with his partner who left him and the children for another man. The two GC have heard everything and seen everything that has happened, including endless fights and nastiness. Plus the fact that their mother left them when they were 3 and 7 because they were "too much trouble". My son is very relaxed about rules, kids making choices, etc so they basically make their own decisions about everything. Unsuitable clothes are the least of my worries ! And funnily enough, they are both the most happy, well-behaved children , with impeccable manners and balanced views on life. So don't despair, things will probably work out for the best and even if they don't, all we can do as grandparents is to watch and support them. Best wishes to you .

weegina Old head on young shoulders.

When not conversing with adults can your grandaughter interact with friends of her own age?
Does she quite happily play with age appropriate toys and games?
If the answer is yes then perhaps it is not such a worry.

I don't see problem with chosing clothes, when not wearing a uniform.

One of our granddaughters is a little like this and at the age of 5 is now finding school difficult because she is not treated like an adult.It is not our place to comment though.

I think there’s a fine line here. I do have concerns if children are involved too much in adult decisions, too much pressure too young. Equally it does no harm for them to realise that finances are finite and there are problems in the world. As I said, a fine line between over burdening them and including them appropriately. I have no problem with children joining in with adult conversation as long as they are polite. Rudeness is inappropriate at any age.

my daughter was an only child for 10 years she spent most of her time with adults ...could hold a good conversation about things in the news or health issues etc .I never saw it as a problem.Both my children were used to picking out what clothes they wanted to wear and it was their choice ..regardless of the weather .They soon learned that a pair of shorts and sandals in the west of Scotland in November wasn't a great idea.My 8 year old GD is now going through the same phase,she regularly comes out of school with her coat in her bag and just a short sleeved top on.My children both grew up just fine .Is there any reason..other than that she might worry that she shouldn't know if they run out of money or that they row ? Wont it make her realise that sometimes adults row and that money doesn't grow on trees ?

In other words: precocious.
Taking part in adult conversations is one thing; correcting adults is rude and interrupting their conversations should not be tolerated.

In Grandma's home, it is her rules that apply - and that may include not having inappropriate conversations in front of young children. What happens in her own home is none of your business in this regard. She might really enjoy being able to be a young child and not a mini-adult when with you.

Her parents will reap what they sow one day.
I’d keep well out of it.