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Toilet training at night

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Besstwishes Tue 22-May-18 12:22:52

I meant to say that the device woke the child up so that they could go to the loo, it didn’t help her to hold it in all night, fortunately her room had a loo attached.

Nannarose Tue 22-May-18 12:20:15

No, and I agree, don't restrict her drinks unless you notice a very definite pattern (and even then, be very careful). It does make sense to keep to 'water only' after about 6pm.
There are lots of reasons that children don't wake to go to the toilet in the night.
I was taught in child development that this is normal up to age 6, and certainly found there was often a significant change at about age 5.
Some carers do 'lift' children to do a wee at about 10-11pm. I am wary of this, as disrupting sleep, and 'encouraging' passing urine in sleep is not always helpful. However, some find that it works so well that it is worth doing.
A small number of children do have specific issues about bladder control at night. You could check with the Health Visitor what the latest research shows.
I had one child who 'potty trained' himself, day and night at 20 months; and one who despite being very well trained by day at 3, did wet the bed until he was 9. I did seek some help at age 7, with varying results. The others were just in between.

Besstwishes Tue 22-May-18 12:04:39

Please dont restrict her drinks, too much , it doesnt work that way, sometimes there is a bit of a disconnect between the bladder letting the child know it’s full and them waking up.

A friend of mine borrowed a small device from her GP surgery, that woke the toddler up when it detected dampness, after a short time the child was dry.

All children are different, best not to make a big deal about it, Anyway, it sounds as though she is well on her way to being dry if she is ok some nights.

supernanauna1 Tue 22-May-18 11:59:41

My son lives with me along with his four and a half year old daughter. I care for her while he's at work. She is toilet trained during the day but has to wear pull-up pants in bed and most mornings it is soaking wet - she's dry one or two mornings a week.

We restrict her drinking after 6 pm so I can't understand why she's not dry at night. It's a long time since my children were small so I can't remember if I ever had this problem with them.

Has anybody got a magic answer please?