worried about grandson’s change of feelings

I think the problem here could be the daily skyping !
This is a true situation that my friend has to contend with regularly but not daily.
I have a very close friend who has a mil who skypes on a very strict schedule and insists on chatting to her 5 year old gs and he hates it . Just before the Skype session he gets grumpy ,he cries, he gets very naughty and then when the skyping begins he goes all silly and refuses to talk to nan. The father , if he is there gets cross with son for not talking to nan (his mother) and it always causes family ructions which of course nan does not know about because son will not tell his mother that her far too regular Skype sessions are unwelcome because they cause too much upset.
The poor 5year old gs has become stressed every day about the Skype he is forced to do with his nan who he really loves but hates skyping with because it's a chore. He does not know what to say ..It's a false situation to a 5 year old.
They should have the courage to tell mother or mil but they have not because ..
1...Nan will be upset
2... Nan will take the hump
3...Nah will wrongly think gs does not like her.

Thanks Nanabilly I have often worried about this, however I have always made it really clear to my son and daughter in law that if he doesn’t want to have his story or speak to me that it really doesn’t matter. After all, if I’m completely honest it’s hard work for me as well!!. It can be difficult to be available for story time every day. I have already said that it is going to have to stop when he starts school in September because he is going to be shattered and with respect, probably fed up with learning new do’s and don’ts.

Nanabilly that's interesting. Although our DGS lives thousands of miles away and DD used to try to get him to interact on Skype, it proved impossible so we didn't persist with it. He always seemed pleased to see us and never seemed to forget us, just taking up where we left off the time before in a matter-of-fact way

sorry Bluebelle

We Skype with our grandchildren, although not on a daily basis. Mostly it's a matter of seeing them fleeing around in the background like whirling dervishes and in any case they don't want to see us, they want to see our cats. The record length of time before they asked to see our cats was a whole 66 seconds.

Oh, and one of my sons is terrible with positioning his phone and I've got to know his ceilings intimately over the years!

I find that DD would be doing something else (workwise on the computer) at the same time as skyping!
Now we usually chat on the phone instead - when I hear background noises I know she's cooking at the same time.
Multi-tasking!

I hope the visit is going well and your little grandson is now enjoying the visit!

UPDATE. So we went to get our grandson yesterday and thank goodness everything was perfect as always. He jumped on me before I could even get into my wheelchair and hung on to me like a limpet. He wouldn’t actually speak to me for several minutes but he then looked at me and said to me “I lost you grandma” (he says lost when he misses something or can’t see something).

So thank you all so very very much for your replies, we are having a wonderful time with him, our son daughter and daughters in laws.
Thank you again everyone, I’m one very happy grandma xx

That's good news indeed.
See, you were worried over nothing.
We often Skype when one gs visits to talk to and see the other gs who lives in another part of the country .It is fun to watch the little ones aged 4 and 6 show each other cartwheels and football moves then they run off to get a new toy a d bring it to the phone to show their cousin . Sometimes they chat for 20 to 30 minutes and sometimes 30 seconds.

Thanks for the update jo.
Glad everything went well.

I am not sure why you are worrying - he is 4, and it is not good for him or you that his feelings about you at any particular moment are treated with such importance.

I love all my DGC, but I am quite sure that there are a million things that they would rather be doing at any one time than coming to see their grandparents. Doesn't mean the don't love us - and like getting their birthday presents!

Chill!!

Well, there you are.