Two wrongs.

Apologies for posting in the wrong section. Not a grandparenting issue.

I think I'd not say anything at all ever again.

gmelon if you’re constantly on the defensive with someone who has neither the tact nor the wherewithal to stop throwing hackneyed old proverbs at you then I too wouldn’t bother with them..

You ask ‘what do I say’ to them? I’d say absolutely nothing. Just turn, walk away and leave them. And don’t seek out their company again.

I think I would be saying if she's knows she's doing wrong why is she doing it in the first place? Also she can do what she likes but you don't have to put up with it. Friendship is a two way thing not one person always bending to another. Not much of a friendship from where I'm sitting.