Swearing

if that was me . i would say something like dont use that language in front of the gc. its not nice. maybe she needs some anger management courses...speak to you son first...

Yes there is a difference Muffin

There’s a huge difference between swearing AT kids and swearing in their hearing. Mum cursed at us constantly. Dad is a curser too but it was more like an “oh f*” if he dropped something, not in anger. That never bothered us (although we absolutely did pick the habit up and i have t9 make huge efforts not to do it around my own littles).

But in your OP, she was absolutely cursing and shouting at the kids, which is really not okay.

That’s horrible op. I am an awful swearer but never ever around children. It’s so awful and you do hear it out and about. I heard a mum recently shout at her child ‘have you pissed yourself again ‘ hideous.

My adult kids occasionally swear but again never in front of their children or neices/nephews.

I did once under much duress tell my oldest then 16 to ‘fuck off’ snd it rocked the house and to b honest we all laughed. Diffused the situation of a stroppy teen.

What does your son think? Also agree with other posters this is so trivial and such vile anger???

My children were horrified when they heard a friend use the 'F' word to his mother when they were teenagers. They still remember it to this day.

The F word is used willy-nilly, not necessarily in anger, but in normal conversation. It's horrible to listen to. If my AC use it in my presence, I have no hesitation in telling them off.

For the sake of not causing trouble I would think it best to speak to your son, not your DIL. Yes it may be her behaviour, but she's likely to react worse to you having a word with her than him.

I could understand if something major had been done such as spilling paint over a living room carpet but tripping over a child's legs is so trivial to me that it's not even worth a mutter when you have children . Their mother doesn't sound to be a very happy bunny whatever the reason.

Younger people seem more relaxed about swearing than the older generation but if she's a good mum and generally loving towards him he won't be harmed by a few swear words. If she's an habitual swearer her husband will already be well aware of it because she'll do it when he's around too. You may not approve but what will you achieve by voicing your disapproval? Probably less contact so leave it be.

I hear this all the time when I'm out and about. It's awful.

Its not juts the inappropriate language here that is worrying its the out of proportion response to the infringement - it sounded so violent and angry. Poor little chap. I really think you need to speak with your son and DIL.

Yes your son should speak to her about this inappropriate language. Sadly nowadays people seem to use the 'F' word almost as a matter of course. Perhaps you could say something in the context of it being a problem if the children repeat this at school or nursery. Look for alternatives to swear words etc.

Where is your son in all this? Does she do it when he is present or only when he is not there? I had a mother like her and very quickly learned to ignore her verbal abuse. I never loved her.