Bi-Polar DIL wants grandson medicated too

You say that your Dil is verbally abusive to your Dgs and I presume that she is his main carer.
You said that you had to stop helping out with your Dgs as you
couldn't stand your Dil and that the School will only deal with your son as they can't cope with your Dil.
What a shame for this little boy, having to live with his mentally ill mother, and dealing with her ups and downs.
He's probably crying out for help, if is behaviour is deteriorating.
Can you not go back and help to look after him again, at least then he would have you close by and his behaviour could improve.
I really feel for this poor little boy.

they have an agreement, he goes to school when Logan gets in trouble to hear what the teacher and principle say (mainly because neither like my DIL and can't reason with her) and DIL handles all dr appts. I'm going down this weekend and my son has scheduled a psych appt so I can attend too. He gave permission which upset my DIL. As far as the meds, I understand everything prescribed has been off of the word of mom relating to dr on his behavior at school and home. Of course dr takes moms words over child and mom has embellished stories before, like before a very smart judge that didn't buy her stories when she tried a surprise divorce attempt and take my grandson away from my son.

not that I have ever seen or experienced. I lived near him for a year and he would spend weekends with me and during the week I'd pick him up from school till I had to return him before bedtime. He never disrespected me, followed my rules, ate what I put in front of him, behaved in stores, bedtime was a routine. But I have seen his mom absolutely nut up over some of the simplest things and some of the most public places such as a courthouse lobby.

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Hmmmmm. Onesie!

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The medical field does NOT operate this way. No licensed board physician will prescribe mental health medication to a child that doesn't need it, just because their mother insists on it.

Your son needs to re-evaluate his priorities in life if he can't take a couple of hours off of work to attend to his sons medical appointments.

Your grandson is taking mental health medication because he's been evaluated and diagnosed with a mental health disorder.

It is not easy to comment on medical procedures in other countries. In the UIK, there is no way that medication would be prescribed for a child purely on his mother's insistence. There would have to be tests and a proper diagnosis before drugs would be prescribed by a psychiatrist.

I am sure this is also true in the States, so perhaps the grandmother who is posting doesn't have the full story. The only other person (besides his mother) who has a right to be present at consultations and discuss this with the consultant is his father. Surely he can manage to attend an appointment and contribute to the discussion and the decisions?

Don’t be so pompous, agnurse.
If the OP isn’t privy to her GS’s medical history, then you certainly aren’t, so I don’t know why you think you’re entitled to pontificate.

Of course a child’s medical history isn’t a grandparent’s ‘business’ but it’s perfectly natural for grandparents to be concerned and to worry if it seems to them that a child is being inappropriately medicated.

This isn’t a court of law, it’s Gransnet - where people come to share their worries and seek reassurance and advice.

maryeliza

Yes. OKC is Oklahoma City, Oklahoma (southern U.S., just north of Texas), and KCMO is Kansas City, Missouri (south central U.S.). With KCMO it is important to include the state because there are actually two Kansas Cities in the U.S. - Kansas City, Missouri and Kansas City, Kansas.

This is happening in USA isn’t it ?

MissAdventure

In that case, you would need to go to social services. I would find it HIGHLY unlikely that a licensed, ethical provider would prescribe medications that are not required. In that case, I would also suggest filing a complaint against the provider.

Remember that the OP likely does not have the full story. She's not (nor should she be) privy to her GS's entire medical history.

I beg to differ.
If a child is being unnecessarily medicated then that is abuse, as far as I'm concerned.
If it were my grandchild I would be having plenty to say.

I think the key thing to remember here is that YOU, as the grandmother, DON'T get a say in this child's medical care.

Presumably his provider has a medical license and is able to determine what's in the best interest of the child. For all we know, the medication he's currently taking is simply not working for him, or could be taking time to work. Maybe the child is angry for a different reason. Maybe that was, in fact, the impetus FOR getting him on medication.

You can't be the one to decide whether or not this child needs medication. For now, all you can do is support your son and his family. Their medical issues are not your business.

Can't add anything to Bibbity's post, that seems to cover it.

No Dr would prescribe medication on the demands of a mother.
What could be happening is that she is attending appointments updating the Dr on GS condition (which you never mentioned) and together they have decided to alter his medication.

Your son can never get a single day off to go and get involved in his troubled sons health care? That’s not really good.

You clearly have a lot against DIL yet she appears to be the one spearheading his health.
Bipolar is a difficult disorder to live with. But as you say when medicated life can be easier.

Could you speak to your son and ask him to stop these Psychiatric visits and his Mother giving the boy medication he may not need?
Can your Son not insist on this?
If not, can your Son find the time to go to these Psychiatric consultations, to see what is going on? Surely, the most precious thing in his life, his own Son, deserves the attention, especially with something as serious as his Mental Health.
The only person you can appeal to, to help your Grandson, is his own Father, so I would speak to him.

Your son simply has to go to an appointment with them no matter how difficult - this is the child’s whole well being potentially at stake. Surely something is possible re work/arranging appointments

Are you in the USA Irene?
The bit of your post that I’m struggling with is your DiL taking your GS to a psychiatrist and insisting he has medication.
It doesn’t really work like that in the U.K.
Does your GS have a mental health disorder?