It would be natural to feel jealous of the other grannie, but as others have said, it is a situation you have no control over. All you can do is Facetime/Skype, send lots of pictures and little letters, even from an early age, so you get imprinted on her mind. Of course, you have no control over whether or not she sees them, and again, this means you simply have to hope your daughter will understand how you feel and make sure to have photos of you around. I know you think nobody on here understands, but rest assured, some of us do. I haven't seen my granddaughters, now aged 11 and 6, at all. Their other grandmother is a great influence on them I am sure. It did bother me, green with envy, angry etc, all those emotions I am sure you are feeling now. But as the situation isn't one that can ever be changed I came to realise there was no point in making myself feel ill and sad. And so gradually, over time, I let go of it all, son included. At least you have a relationship with your daughter, be grateful for small mercies and the glimmer of hope of some relationship with the child when it is older.