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AIBU to ban my 2yr old grandson?

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ReadyMeals Wed 13-Feb-19 11:14:14

He comes to my house and immediately points out any bit of crumb or fluff on my floor, to make me feel like an inadequate housekeeper. He fetches the dustpan and brush to clean them, which I should feel thankful for, except to add injury to insult he make more mess and mayhem trying to clean than there was already. Would it be unreasonable to stop him visiting until he can accept my home as it is? He turned two last month and has been doing this since he was about 20 months old.

georgia101 Thu 14-Feb-19 09:57:59

Every child I've ever known has loved to clean the house for and with me. It's only when they've practiced like this and are competent at it that they stop, noticeably at the teenage stage! We bought them their own brush sets and toy hoovers and they thought they were so grown up and helpful. We all enjoyed the game. We recently found our 9 year old GD going minutely up the stairs getting as much fluff off them as she could and were highly amused, not upset. We laughed with her and told her she can do it every time she comes - please! Your grandson is trying to be grown up and helpful too, not critical. He's too young to do that. He sounds delightful.

jaylucy Thu 14-Feb-19 09:58:03

Youngsters have a great way of making you feel small, without realising it. My niece sat on my dad's lap one day, looked him straight in the face and said "Pappy, why have you got crinkles on your face?" After that, wrinkles are now crinkles!
I'd go with some of the others - buy him his own brush and dust pan and encourage him to clean - why not? I used to get my nephew to dust the skirting boards and bottom of my cupboards for me when I used to look after him! smile

breeze Thu 14-Feb-19 09:59:28

This thread reminded me of an incident we had many years ago when my eldest was around 4. We invited friends who also had children of a similar age to a BBQ. Our house is built into the side of a hill, so the play area we used to have with little plastic slide, sand pit etc. was on the same level as our downstairs loo. One of the guests went to the bathroom, came back and said ‘I don’t know how to break this to you Breeze but you may want to check your loo’. When I went in, the little darlings had emptied the sandpit with their little spades into the small window by the toilet and the loo was buried in sand! Sadly, none of them were such a dab hand with a dustpan and brush as they were with their shovels so be very grateful Readymeals grin

Rowantree Thu 14-Feb-19 10:05:22

He's welcome at my house anytime.

You're probably reading too much into this. He's two years old and has a fascination with bits of fluff. Good! Encourage that. Make it into a game, join in with him, laugh and play Hunt the Fluff! You could even lay a coloured 'trail' with a surprise at the end for him to find. Be creative with him; he is full of awe and wonder at things we cannot see beauty or interest in; long may that continue. Love it. And flowers to you.

BassGrammy Thu 14-Feb-19 10:05:37

Children copy.....it’s a compliment to both you and his mum that he knows what to do!

Wendiwoo Thu 14-Feb-19 10:06:40

My Dgd aged about 5 would love to mop the kitchen floor, extending out of the kitchen door and along the garden path. One time having mopped the kitchen floor leaving it absolutely awash she also drew a sign showing me falling over with the legend “mind” in huge writing. I still have the sign but that dgd, now aged 24, is excellent at supervising her 17 year old sister cleaning, tidying etc but the expensive upkeep of her nails does prevent her from doing any but the very lightest of housework herself wink

Davidhs Thu 14-Feb-19 10:07:08

Take a video of it and save it for his 18 th birthday , encourage him certainly don’t ban him

Humbertbear Thu 14-Feb-19 10:07:12

Ban him by all means but don’t then complain you have no relationship with him. He’s a two year old!

Jalima1108 Thu 14-Feb-19 10:09:33

grin grin
some of the replies are hilarious!

No, YANBU Readymeals grin
He is being most inconsiderate of your feelings - you must feel most upset when he finds a dust bunny!

inishowen Thu 14-Feb-19 10:20:26

My grandson, similar age, loves to get the broom out and sweep the kitchen floor. It's just a game at that age. Go with the flow.

123coco Thu 14-Feb-19 10:23:44

ReadyMeals . I find this unbelievable that you would even consider this, you must have an incredibly thin skin. You are being paranoid never mind unreasonable. It makes me wonder what other minor things get your goat. How are you going to cope when he’s a teenager and isn’t conforming to your standards! You say he does it to make you feel inadequate. HE IS 2 yrs old. He doesn’t even have those thought processes fo goodness sake!. Think of the consequences if you did ban this and what his parents would think. THIS IS NOT LOVE! Of course there is a solution, make sure there aren’t any crumbs. If you’re unable to do this then praise him and join in and help him, make it a fun activity!

RosieLeah Thu 14-Feb-19 10:24:45

Your grandson sounds delightful..if you don't want him, give him to me. I think you are simply looking for an excuse to ban him because you dislike him for some reason.

razzmatazz Thu 14-Feb-19 10:25:27

Is this serious?

MissAdventure Thu 14-Feb-19 10:26:04

I think you haven't read the thread properly, RosieLeah smile

DotMH1901 Thu 14-Feb-19 10:26:19

Never stop a volunteer! Bless - I wish my DGS was bothered at all by the mess they make in the house! I live with four chronically untidy and messy people (DD and GC) and would love another pair of hands to help clean up!

123coco Thu 14-Feb-19 10:30:05

* Jalima1108 *. I find your answer unbelievable! Clearly people don’t understand child development v well if they think a 2 yr old is capable of being considerate to the degree. Is he supposed to be telepathic!At 2 yrs old they are still egocentric and this is PERFECTLY NORMAL! Goodness I haven’t been lucky enough to have children and grandchildren,but heavens above I now see I will hav e contributed greatly to the young children in my care if people really have these feelings towards a 2 yr old developing child still making sense of the world etc. Give me strength! I kind of hope you do ban him and suffer the immense consequences. This isn’t love if you would rather not have him in your life and choose to see his behaviour as a slight. Poor child !

Badenkate Thu 14-Feb-19 10:30:48

I can't wait until April 1st! I though Britain was famous for its dry humour - it was a light-hearted posting, for goodness sake!

123coco Thu 14-Feb-19 10:31:29

razzmatazz. Exactly, made me wonder if it was April fools day! Ridiculous and sad. Poor kid!

MissAdventure Thu 14-Feb-19 10:32:46

confused

chris8888 Thu 14-Feb-19 10:33:02

Really ru for real! Be gllad you have a grandson and let him be 2

MissAdventure Thu 14-Feb-19 10:35:26

Have you people not read the bloody thread then?
Just the first post?!

Esmerelda Thu 14-Feb-19 10:36:21

This is the kind of post that I find really annoying as it is obviously not genuine and just put up to provoke a reaction ... the OP has absolutely no intention of banning her 2 year old GS.

wildswan16 Thu 14-Feb-19 10:38:05

readymeal please could you send him over to my house. I would love a little help with the corners where the fluff gathers. He sounds delightful but I am sure you wouldn't lend him out.

Can't believe some of the comments from people who can't see a tongue in cheek post! I'm sure you didn't think you would be taken seriously by anyone.

nanasam Thu 14-Feb-19 10:39:29

coco if you'd read all the posts you'd have seen that the OP admitted she was joking!

MissAdventure Thu 14-Feb-19 10:39:32

This