Nobody can properly care for their own well being, not mentally or physically, when they over-extend themselves while caring for others -
I personally cannot think of a single individual who didn't neglect themselves while engaged in a caretaker situation - Myself included -
I had to learn to say no AND not be afraid to say so - And if doing so caused a rift it revealed that the relationship didn't sit on a healthy foundation to begin with -
Saying no forces others to examine the path they themselves chose - And once faced with that task may become frustrated and distance themselves a bit - In time they begin to realize how much they themselves expected of someone else once faced with managing the tasks on their own -
Divorce at 66 - I'm scared to be alone
The most shocking proposition you've ever received? - odd requests
Procrastination - what are you putting off?