I guess that's the point of posting here MamaCaz
I dont know how you make am effort to find something that doesnt exist. Babysitters round here have 4hr minimums, friends will have your kid if they will tag on to plans, but not to sit in all morning wasting their kids holiday, and holiday clubs charge per session even if you collect early.
It is very hard to effectively tell someone you love that they arent useful
This may be the position the DD feels she is in because the OP keeps coming back with wantinv to help after it has become clear that she can't!
We have been in that position with FIL and driving and it was very very difficult indeed.
Divorce at 66 - I'm scared to be alone
The most shocking proposition you've ever received? - odd requests
Procrastination - what are you putting off?