All very good advice already given Violet, the only thing I can add is about my youngest sisters situation of 20 yrs ago. Very chaotic lifestyle, 4 children to 3 different dads, 2 marriages before she turned 21 and then she met her husband. She met him over the Christmas holidays and was married on Valentines day, moved within a year from the NE to SW. It was the best thing they ever did, it took her away from all her old haunts and 'friends' and they've never had it so good. They run their own business, girls all went to good, small village schools and are doing much better despite all our initial fears. We never know what lays ahead and I fully understand your fears but thankfully modern technology will help you keep in touch. I wish you and your family a good outcome and many years together
Lack of public toilets in towns.