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What should Great Grandparents be called?

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millie58 Wed 13-May-20 07:11:21

When my children were young, my husband's parents referred to my husband's Nan as Great Nan when in discussion with my children and they were known as Nan & Grandad.
Now that I am a Grandparent myself, they refer to themselves as Nan & Grandad as well. I have a bad relationship with them and am unsure whether this is just clouding my thought on this matter or whether this is quite normal? Please help!

tonyb Wed 13-May-20 11:14:53

Lucky!

Froglady Wed 13-May-20 11:11:29

Just recalled that my mum was known to her grandchildren as 'Min' from The Goons as her son-in-law is a great Goons fan. Min was a perfect name for her.

Froglady Wed 13-May-20 11:09:34

We had a great grandmother who was my mother's granny and I think we called her Great Granny but my father's mother was referred to as 'Just Granny' and any cards were always addressed to Just Granny. There was never any mixup. Nowadays there may be several sets of grandparents partly because of people living longer, but also due to people divorcing and remarrying.

missdeke Wed 13-May-20 11:08:53

My grandchildren all called my mum nan, the same as me, except one grandchild called my mum chair nanny (she was in her late 90s and died last month 4 weeks short of her 100th birthday). I am also known as Bus nanny as I am the only person to have taken him on a bus.

I think we should allow children to make their own mind up when choosing what to call us.

Bijou Wed 13-May-20 11:08:26

I am Grandma and Great Grandma. My mother was Nana. Unfortunately she never lived long enough to have great grandchildren. According to the Oxford dictionary nana is a silly person, a fool. Nanny - a child’s nurse, an unduly over protective person. .

mariella22 Wed 13-May-20 11:07:50

Also the first grandchild set the pattern , when he started to speak , not the adults !

Susieq72 Wed 13-May-20 11:07:38

I’m called GG as the kids don’t know what great grandma means

mariella22 Wed 13-May-20 11:06:05

My children called their grandparents by their name eg
Granny Sue , Granda Bill, Granny Margaret
They then become Great granny Sue etc if still alive . It is personal and that s why they liked it .

grannie7 Wed 13-May-20 10:59:26

I am grannie and my husband Gramps to our GC when our only GGC appeared 2 years ago there was. a lot of discussion as to what the grandparents were going to be called.
one grand father was so furious that his daughter had made him a gp he wasn’t called anything.
Time being a great healer and the rest of us taking no notice of his ranting he is now Granddad.
my DH is still gramps to all the children our little one has just copied her daddy.
I am gigi was to be gg but our little smarty pants has a rocking horse and informed everyone that I wasn’t a horse I was her Gigi she is such a sweetheart.
She 2 granddads.2 grandmothers 3 GGrandmothers 2 GGfathers,everyone has a different name but she knows who’s who and that to me is all that matters.
We all get along well and try very hard not to spoil her but it’s very difficult lol

Chicklette Wed 13-May-20 10:57:52

My Mum didn’t want to be called Great Nan as it’d make her sound old! She was quite difficult about it (as with so many things...) Eventually she settled on GNan. She liked it because it sounded a bit like a rapper and a bit cool! And I like it, so I think if I ever become one I shall be GNan. The grandchildren all call her GNan when she’s talked about so they’re used to the name.

Suspiros Wed 13-May-20 10:54:12

When her first great-grandchild was born my mother, who is known as Granny to her grandchildren, announced that she wished to be known as Grannan to the next generation so that is what they have always called her.

millie58 Wed 13-May-20 10:52:37

Thank you all for your replies. It is very hurtful that they are using the same names as what my husband and I are called. Like many of you, I had expected alternative name's for them regardless of what that may have been. Sadly it doesn't stop at the name, they are very manipulative and always have been, it is just another occasion to keep them rent free in my head. Thanks again

Armorel Wed 13-May-20 10:41:07

I am 'G-gran' to my great-grandchildren!

Grannybadger Wed 13-May-20 10:37:33

For my gc I am Mam-mor & my dh is Bandan, this is how the eldest gc used to say Grandma & Grandad and the nick names have stuck. My mil is Nanny & my late parents were Papa & Nan-nan.

SparklyGrandma Wed 13-May-20 10:37:30

I am Grandma (surname), my mother is Nana (fruit name) and my father is Grandpa (fruit name).

BusterTank Wed 13-May-20 10:36:20

I think great grandparents should be grandma and grandpa and gran parents should be Nanny and grandad . Although I like to be called nanna .

JuliaM Wed 13-May-20 10:34:57

My own Grandchildren call me Grandma, and my Husband Gan Gan, they refere to my own father as 'Old Grandad' although they very rarely see him due to his frailty, and sometimes states of self undress infront of visitors, which is really something young children should not see, and could upset them greatly. Im a Great Grandma myself, to 3 babies, too young to call me anything yet, so its very much wait and see!

GladysP2 Wed 13-May-20 10:34:53

When my children were young they called my mum Nanna and their great grandma G-nan.

HappyAmI Wed 13-May-20 10:31:16

My mum is known as GG, not just to my GD but to everyone else in the family.

olliebeak Wed 13-May-20 10:26:04

Just wait and see what the children come up with! I'm 'Narnie', as decided by my eldest granddaughter 22yrs ago. The other 6 of my grandchildren have all followed her lead grin.

embracethegrey Wed 13-May-20 10:18:07

Ours are collectively The Greats, or GG individually

Granof1 Wed 13-May-20 10:18:01

My son called my mother Nan, when he had a son he referred to her as Super Nan and that's what she is now known assmile

Summerstorm Wed 13-May-20 10:15:44

My husband was pretty much brought up by his GM and always referred to her as nanny when our children arrived she wanted to be called great nanny but it was a bit of a mouthful and they themselves reduced it to gran. Because the children chose it, she was very with it

BladeAnnie Wed 13-May-20 10:14:06

We are Nanna and Grandad - because I had a lovely Nanna on my dad's side of the family and it's in her memory in a way I suppose. I just always knew I would be a Nanna rather than Granny or Grandma x

vampirequeen Wed 13-May-20 10:13:46

I'm a Grandma and my mam is Nanna.