We are going through a similar thing. My son left his wife, complicated background. They have a nearly four year old, and a 1 year old. We love our DIL very much, and are very sad the marriage has ended, but if we’re honest, not surprised. They were a ‘ perfect storm’, and simply shouldn’t have been together. Our DIL is still in their house. Our son was with us, now lives with his friend. It’s becoming noticeable, that our DIL isn’t coping, but she’s very stubborn, and understandably, wants to do certain things herself. Our younger grandson is constantly being injured by the older, to the point he’s getting some quite nasty injuries. Our son feels so guilty about it all, but as much as we love our DIL, we can see she was very difficult to live with. She had a totally dysfunctional background, and she’s brought it into the marriage. It’s so hard isn’t it, to know what to do. We don’t want to interfere. They will sort it out, but at the same time, we don’t want to look like we’re abandoning them, and do nothing. I don’t have the answers Spuggee. Perhaps if you get some, you could let me know. All the best to you ?