I haven't had this experience, but have seen it for my parents-in-law as one of their sons emigrated, and has since had 2 children who they didn't know very much (they're now gone and the grandchildren are in their 30's); they didn't have the same relationship with those children as the others (how could they??) I'm afraid that if our children emigrate abroad, they cannot expect us to have the same relationship with their children - it's made impossible by the choice they made and it's expecting to have everything. Also, they escape any of the helping or caring of parents (either side) and escaped all those responsibilities. My SIL had to give up a full time job to care for them. Of course, she was left a larger portion of their parents' estate to compensate her loss of work pension, but her brother has never stopped moaning about it ever since!
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