Worried about Granddaughter

You don't need anyone's permission to write to your grand-daughter or to send her presents. This is about YOUR relationship with HER, not anyone else's. I know it is difficult but you have a right to a relationship independent of any with your son or daughter-in-law. Of course they can make it difficult for you both , but I suspect that they won't.

no i cannot agree with the above post.
the parents have the rights over their minor children, and it is their decision who how is in touch with them, or not.
the present situation does sounds hard, and there may be more to it. i hope you are allowed to write to yr GD.

Grannythree I haven't read all the comments yet.
I would have thought more FT, not less, would perhaps do the trick if she's missing you so much. A nightly story time together, she would look forward to that all day. Letters would still be a lovely thing for her to look forward to as well. Getting your GD to forget you is not the way in my book.

I remember when we moved to Holland, my daughter who was 4yrs old, became ill. When we took her to the doctors she seemed to perk up and nothing was found to be round. She would lie on the settee and not play with her toys. I was so worried my sister flew out from UK to help. Only later, looking back, the penny dropped that she was homesick, as she was very close to her nanny & granddad. No FT then or anything like it.

Hope you get to work it out. xx

I agree with those who say to wait it out. Grandparents are not entitled, and the parents are most likely working towards the best solution. That may be , that your little granddaughter does need more time on FT with you, not less, but it is for the parents to decide. Just be patient if you can.

I can understand that sometimes facetime and similar can actually be quite distressing. At the beginning of lockdown, my adult children arranged a family zoom meeting, mainly for me. I burst into tears as I went into, seeing them all there, and - somehow, it only emphasised to me how different things were. I would never repeat it.
Do use zoom for lectures and meetings, but not for family. prefer to talk to them either on the phone or to receive letters.
Obviously, anything you do should be with the knowledge and permission of her parents.
Ask them if it would be okay to send letters by post and even small gifts - do remember to also include the younger child in these.
Children of 6yrs upwards are having a very difficult time - the whole world, which adults should be in charge of has collapsed - and many of them are very, very frightened and scared of anything happening to their parents.
So, take it slowly and carefully - and always with the full knowledge and permission of parents - and hopefully, things will get a little better soon.

When my son emigrated to Canada I looked forward to phone calls, but could not ‘do’ facetime at all. Far too upsetting. I never wanted him to see the sadness on my face or tears in my eyes and it was a struggle to look cheerful.
Now my daughter has left to live in France (was it something I said. Haha), we do facetime and I am usually ok with that. However, the other day on facetime and, quite out of the blue, my 6 year old grandson said “I do miss you nanny. When are you coming to see me”. Had me in bits for a while I can tell you.
What I am getting to is the fact that the OP’s son is probably right about facetime which just underlines the distance between them. Hopefully, he will change his mind about letters and cards.

I can appreciate your worry. It seems unusual for 'homesickness' to kick in 2 years after a move and in quite a young child who is with her immediate family. But maybe she is just being a bit grumpy ..kids go through phases.. and just does not want to Facetime.
I know sometimes DGCs would prefer to be at home than with me for chidcare especially now they are older. Once my DGS1 shouted crossly ' I bet Nana will take me to the theatre or a museum!" ??? Sometimes grandparents just aren't top of a child's list of exciting things to do! I don't take it personally....

p.s. my DGS1 always ends up having a goodtime!