I am trying to see things from my MIL’s point of view and reading here has been very helpful.
I am still struggling with a particular topic and was hoping some kind grans would be willing to share thoughts.
My DS is 9 months old. As a covid era baby, it’s been a difficult road. Many feelings have been hurt as we try to keep our child safe and healthy, and as we try to follow government guidelines.
One particular topic that has caused a lot of grief has been pressure from my MIL to babysit (and, in particular, to have our baby sleep over).
I expected to accept more childcare help before our baby was born, but between covid, her constant pressure, and concerns about what I’ve seen in her childcare of our niece, I’m very hesitant. The few times we have left him in her care for a few hours (at her insistence), it has been very stressful for both my husband and me. Our son has been quite cranky upon returning home and we found his sleep was disrupted for multiple days after. Her home is very loud and she has stated she doesn’t feel naps are really necessary (despite our clear explanations that our 9 month old MUST nap at certain intervals).
Her pressure to provide childcare has intensified and she is especially getting pushy about wanting to have the baby overnight. I am having a hard time understanding the insistence and running out of ways to politely say no.
I am a stay at home mom and my husband currently works from home. We don’t go out much due to covid and we take turns running errands. I want to make my MIL happy and feel included, but we don’t actually need any childcare help at this time and I am not comfortable with being away from my child overnight.
Could anyone please share their feelings on the insistence to have overnight stays (just the baby, without us there)? This seems like a common pressure and I am trying to understand it.
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