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Long distance grand parenting

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Esspee Sun 13-Dec-20 13:00:42

My son has hit on the idea of having me do babysitting via FaceTime while he works from home.
Once this became routine I was given music practice to supervise. This involves DGD1 repeatedly playing two Christmas tunes on her violin. I believe he subjects us to this as some form of retribution for past sins. I smile and give lots of encouragement to which she responds by playing them again....and again. 🥺😖😫

This weekend DGD2 was showing us the funfair she had made for her Barbie dolls. They have a steep flight of stairs sweeping up to landings on three sides. There were bungee jumps and parachute jumps on to cushions strategically placed below, and a zip wire which was made from a basket over a string which was taut from the top right to bottom left of the stair bannisters. Barbies placed in the basket enjoyed hurtling down at a fast rate and on occasion being ejected as the basket reached the end of it’s traverse. More cushions were hurriedly placed to break their fall.
After several demonstrations the little one excitedly took me (i.e. daddy’s phone) up the stairs and then I couldn’t see anything but could hear muffled whoops. I was supposed to be supervising. I shouted and shouted. Lots of movement, fuzzy pictures then my son’s face appeared. DGD2 was being given a lecture about sending daddy’s (extremely expensive I) phone down in the zip wire basket. Fortunately it hadn’t suffered ejection at the bottom and was intact.
And the little one’s explanation? “I was just letting grandma try out the zip wire”. 😅😂🤣

We are wondering if I will be allowed to babysit again or perhaps will have to restrict my services to yet more violin practice.🎻 🙀😹

ElaineI Sun 13-Dec-20 13:52:47

This made me laugh Esspee. Sounds like when our grandchildren FaceTime. How do you get the emojis on the post by the way?

Farmor15 Sun 13-Dec-20 15:51:05

Sounds like great fun! I love when children use their imagination to invent new games. Maybe your son will have to get a special cheap phone to give grandma new experiences 🙂

Esspee Sun 13-Dec-20 16:29:10

Elaine1. The emojis are on my tablet. I’m using an iPad mini just now but my Kindle Fire also has emojis.

GrannySomerset Sun 13-Dec-20 16:33:27

What a brilliant child! Should go far, violin or no violin. Such imagination and enterprise may well keep daddy in a comfortable old age!

Jaxjacky Sun 13-Dec-20 17:11:48

Made me laugh!

Callistemon Sun 13-Dec-20 17:21:03

What fun!

Not sure about the violin though (I've done my punishment time with the DC).

Esspee Sun 13-Dec-20 22:27:02

Well tonight’s session was painless. Violin practice had been completed earlier.
Tomorrow is the concert. No audience due to Covid but it is being filmed and of course I will be sent the link.
The zip line has been dismantled, Barbie’s funfair was subject to compulsory closure, so let’s see what tomorrow brings. 💕

Nansnet Mon 14-Dec-20 10:04:46

This made me smile. We've not been able to see our little GD at all this year, due to travel restrictions (we live in different countries), but, even at the age of 2, she has become very interactive with us on a mobile phone. She often takes us on the swing and tells us to 'hold on tight' ... or puts us down the slide, to great squeals of laughter! I don't think it does mummy's, or daddy's, mobile much good, but we enjoy being able to take part in her fun, albeit it remotely!grin

Esspee Mon 14-Dec-20 11:01:11

Nansnet isn’t it wonderful the way they accept technology. I do wonder if they believe somehow we are inside the phone.

Farmor15 Mon 14-Dec-20 12:08:22

There's a nice ad on Irish TV showing a grandad helping to reassure GS about monster via technology!

ElaineI Mon 14-Dec-20 21:36:21

Thanks Esspee - will try that if I get an iPad for Christmas grin usually on MacBook.

Nansnet Thu 17-Dec-20 09:19:44


Nansnet isn’t it wonderful the way they accept technology. I do wonder if they believe somehow we are inside the phone.

Esspee, that's exactly what I'm wondering ... she must think all of her grandparents live in a mobile phone! I often wonder how she'll react to us when we eventually get to see her properly again?!

pollychat Tue 29-Dec-20 12:59:37

My two grandsons are in Hong Kong, age 5 and 2. I would love suggestions about keeping in touch with them. We do regular facetime, as well as zooms with son and lovely daughter in law.
Many thanks.

Nicegranny Fri 01-Jan-21 04:15:40

My three grandchildren are in Hong Kong and I get regular daily FaceTime calls with my daughter and the girls. I get taken around the apartment under beds, zooming across bookshelves put into dolls houses , close ups with the dog and cats. All the movement of the phone hurts my eyes and makes me feel queasy but it’s all worth it to join them for breakfast (when l should be in bed) and to see them.

Sadnana1 Fri 08-Jan-21 22:14:34

My 3 grandchildren live in Thailand which has the strictest rules re entering the country. Even when other restrictions ease I may not be able to see them for a very long time. We do have regular what's app sessions but it's always bittersweet.They grow up so quickly that its really hard not sharing their daily lives. I keep hoping things will get better and international travel will re open.but.from all accounts it will be a very long time until anyone from UK will be allowed into Thailand and they cant come out as they'll need to do 2 weeks quarantine in a state validated facility ( ie very expensive hotel) when they re enter.
Any tips from other long distance grandparents on staying.positive would be gratefully received.

Harris27 Fri 08-Jan-21 22:20:55

I loved this. I do lots of FaceTime and. A bit of singing with them it’s usually hilarious!😂😂

grumpygranella Tue 26-Jan-21 18:57:49

New member here. Seems just what I was looking for. Three of my grands are 6,14, 15. The two older ones seem to be managing fine and will have cursory conversation with me on video calls. The 6 year old used to love playing snakes and ladders and hangman over video calls and read books but now she doesn't even want to talk to me. I think she gets upset that I am not there. Do any of you have ideas of other games and ways to communicate over video calls. Any suggestions appreciated.

Nansnet Thu 28-Jan-21 08:01:33

grumpygranella, don't take it personally. Six year olds can get distracted, and are easily bored. Sitting in front of a screen, with their grandparent, may not be the most exciting thing they could be doing right at that moment. Although, of course, for us, it probably is!

I think, when that happens, we all need to be content with a quick greeting from GC, a chat with mum or dad, and waving them goodbye, and blowing kisses, until next time.