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My Grandson does NOT love me

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fairyamma Mon 15-Mar-21 00:44:31

My grandson is almost 6 he and I have always had a very close bond up until the age of 4 he wanted me and no one else it was sometimes embarassing when someone else would try to hold him or be with him he would reach out for me and not want anyone else.
For about the last year he has had a very bad attitude towards me, I do not see him doing it to anyone else!
It is killing me....when I try to hug him he tells me : not now" if I ask him a question he says " you heard me" and lastly this week when I patted him on the head he first gave me a dirty look and then said " your annoying me" I am not going to lie I went home later that night and just cried
I LOVE my grandson and I do not want him to feel this way towards me.....if anyone can help me out I would appreciate it.....

Bugger1234 Sun 11-Apr-21 15:55:31

My grandson is the same way. It’s even harder because his parents are split with 50/50 custody. Things have been said on the other side of the family, he hears and takes it all in. For years it has broken my heart. He is now 7. I am trying to give him space. If he wants to play with me he decides. If he wants to hug or tell me he loves me, it’s up to him. Being a grand parent is not easy at times. Believe me I feel you! The joy I feel when I look at his precious face does out way the pain. I just wish the families could come together for his benefit. You are not alone in your pain. Hugs

blue25 Sun 11-Apr-21 16:51:30

You sound very needy and insecure. He’s a child, you probably are annoying him by being so needy. Just relax and enjoy him.

Blencathra Mon 12-Apr-21 06:31:12

He is growing up and changing and you need to change with him. What is appropriate with a baby and toddler may go on until 4 but not by 6 and he will change again and again as he grows up. Just enjoy him as he is. I hated being hugged as a child- especially being expected to hug.