Have had my 15 yr old grandson staying with me for ten days now, and boy oh boy think we have both found it hard. I took him in willingly as he has masses of medical issues and his three younger siblings were all covid positive so I brought him here hoping he had not picked it up before I got to him, but tomorrow is day eleven so think we have won this one and he has remained covid free. Told him he might hate me time we are done especially if his mum or dad came down with it and his stay had to be extended, but as long as he was alive to hate me then I have done a good job.
He eats none stop....I don't mind four large meals a day but I don't remember my children needing so many snacks in between. DD1 said he will do that when stressed and suggested I make a snack bag up for him, which I did with 2 pieces of fruit in, a bag of crisps, some biscuits, a small bag of sweets and some chocolate, so plenty to eat in it. I don't remember ever snacking as a child, apart from the school playpiece, things were tight in our house, dont get me wrong we got we got fed three meals a day with a pudding as well every night, same as mine got.
I have had to move food and cans of juice into my room out of his way, on day one he drunk ten cans. I don't begrudge him it but it all seems rather excessive. ? I appreciate he is stressed and has never stayed away from home longer than 48 hrs and he was worried about his siblings but not sure this is an excuse.
He is in for a gunk tomorrow as he ate two snack bags in one day despite only suppose to be having one. He denied it was him, but it had to be as there is nobody else here to eat it.
Banned him from taking the snack bags up the stairs as there was four days rubbish lying in the room, seems he can carry full bags up but not empty ones down. Then lied to me he had brought it down.......of course it was all still lying there. There was a reprecussion for that lie, he lost his box for 24 hrs.
Having to force him into the shower every third day and constantly sending him back to the bathroom to wash his hands after using the toilet. My son was never out the shower at that age. He sleeps naked, but instead of putting clean clothes on when he gets up he puts the dirty ones back on and then complains like hell cos I moan at him to get redressed, did ask him why he does it but says he doesn't know.
He seems to like making things hard on himself. took him until day 4 to tell me he had forgotten his toothbrush despite me sending him to clean his teeth every night and him telling me he had done them. Not like he was going to get into trouble for forgetting his toothbrush, the shops sell them.
No wonder he complains his mum picks on him!!!
I don't wish to paint him in a bad light he is a lovely young man, who is kind caring and compassionate, but maybe when you are living it every day with your own it is different.
So generational or bad memory?
