Grandchild dislikes me

My first grandchild didn't like me much when she was younger. The family live in another country so I hadn't seen too much of her for first year. However, I was asked to come to stay and help when 2nd one was due. I was definitely last pick - she would tolerate me when no-one else was around, but if anyone else appeared - other GM, uncle, aunt etc, I was completely ignored. Even after staying a few weeks, and sleeping with her at night, she would go to anyone else in preference to me!

However, that changed as she got older and now she seems to enjoy my company and doing things with me. Her brother, however, is still quite distant - he's one of those who doesn't really like physical contact, so I know not to even try and hug him, and only hold his hand if necessary - crossing road.

I think, just be kind and consistent, try not to put any pressure on him/her. Always greet the with a smile.

I think health plays a big part in how much grandchildren want to be with us. Let's face it when they are little they want to romp and chase and do physical things a lot of the time and play games sitting on the floor. Kids are totally self centred when little. If it's not fun they don't want it! Simple as. I wasn't able to do those things with my own granddaughter and it did make for a less attached relationship. Even now that she's 8 she's very attached to my daughter and I'm someone mostly on the sidelines. It doesn't mean she doesn't love me, just I'm not as important. She was not a cuddly child, quite the opposite but recently she has spontaneously hugged me more and I know she loves her visits here. I make special meals for her and she knows that I love her. They do change with time. The secret is to take the lead from them , not force them into our ways. And yes, it has been painful at times.