For a long time we suspected DGS was autistic and he now has a diagnosis. School are now suggesting DGD is also. They are just 11 and I think pre teen hormones are highlighting the symptoms. They are quite high functioning but have certain trigger points. Both are very anxious children and the stress comes out in different ways. However, what is driving me mad at the moment is their hair! DGS started first. If his hair is not exactly how he wants it he kicks off, he can have two or three showers before he gets it right. This often means he can be very late for school. Primary school v. Understanding, have organised counselling etc but fear for secondary school.
DGDs autism is becoming more marked. She was better at masking until now I think. She is now afraid of crowds. We have been out shopping in our local city which was by no means crowded and she ended up covering her ears and saying ‘Help’ which resulted in DGS in tears because he thought people would think we were abducting her. I am on here just for a way to relieve my feelings. I don’t want to tire my friends by offloading. The final straw just now was because DGD would not go out into garden because I could not get her parting straight. ( It was absolutely straight but not in her eyes). So I am venting on her so that I don’t lose my temper!
I should add that single DD and twins now live with us although they have a semi of their own round the corner as neighbours less than understanding about kids meltdowns.
If I had to choose.....just one day