GD behaviour

When one of my GD's was wee she told me "you do know you're not my FAVOURITE granny" her dad was horrified and told her to apologise.I thought it was hilarious.
I stopped him right there ,she was 4 ,she only saw his parents 3 times a year when they arrived laden with presents etc of course they were her favourites.
Now she's 12 she gets very embarrassed when her Dad reminds her of it ,we have a lovely relationship and she stays with us and my other 2 big GD's regularly ,in fact she's the one on the phone asking for extra days .
Your GD is just being 5 ,she'll grow out of it ,like another poster I would never ask or expect any child to hug or kiss anyone when they clearly didn't want to,I remember the round of kissing Aunties and Uncles and I hated it

Many Fives are in a phase of their own. Ignore, it passes.

I can’t really subscribe to the ‘it’s just a phase’ or ‘they all do it, it’ll pass’. It will only pass if it’s dealt with properly. I would ignore it up to a point, but you have to teach a child that unacceptable behaviour has consequences ( or rather, the parents have to ).

Agree with what had been said, you don't get well behaved children by condoning unacceptable behaviour or by spoiling them. At the end of the day children who are able to get along others will be more popular with their peers and happier in the long term. One thing that struck me is the reversal of roles, the OP said that she was the apple of the child's eye. Shouldn't it be the other way around? Surely the child should be more disconcerted by losing favour with the grandparents rather than the other way around?

Well, thank you for your advices. It's clear that it is a phase and that I should ignore her behaviour, although to be fair she is lovely at other times. The trouble is as we get older we forget what our own children had done when they were young and for the record, I'm not wrinkly nor smelly
Thanks again it has been helpful.

Perhaps it is your perfume or make up , it might not seem strong to you but to their sensitive noses. Next time she calls you that ask her why ? She should be old enough to tell you if you don't feel comfortable doing that ask her parents to find out at least then you would know. I would stop trying to kiss and cuddle her at the moment and hopefully it will change in the near future.

I would be telling her she was being rude and people don’t like anyone who is rude to them. However you are her grandmother, you love her and always will but it makes you sad when she behaves like that.
I used to tell my boys that “I love you when you’re good, I love you when you’re bad but when you’re bad you make me really, really sad.”
A hand shake, high five, or whatever, instead of a kiss is perfectly acceptable.
Don’t make too much of it and next week or next year everything might change.

Espee good advice. Thank you.

My eldest DGD (aged 16 now) was a prolific biter to certain people when aged between 1-3. Chief victims were my DD2 who was in her teens at the time and her paternal GM. She is mortified now of course. When reminded. The only biter I’ve ever encountered.

Reverse psychology might work. Ignore her when she comes over next, don't make eye contact. She will be curious as she won't have the usual response from you. Above all, try not to take it personally. Sorry you're not getting much support from the parents, they could give her a gentle prompt to say hello nicely.