Grumpy granddaughter

You can all laugh and conjecture on the colour of the icing and not agree with the OP getting upset.
Just remember what you wrote when next time you are with your grandchildren or even grown-up children and they tell you to f off or call you a f....dinosaur or throw a tantrum when they get peas instead of the beans they demanded.
It happens to us all. The only way anyone learns is by being told when things are right or wrong.

My almost 4 year old grandson ambled about singing ‘bring us sone friggin’ pudding’ through the Christmas period. Much snorting from the adults, all of whom decided it best to let this one lie.
Sorry Streamertail but try and see the positives. What a bright child who expressed emotions rather than acting it out

I agree yammy
How can they know before they are told.

I dislike to hear swearing and avoid the top of the bus where the F word is every other word among almost any group of teenagers or young adults.

Yammy
Not much could shock me after the past year we’ve had with our granddaughter.

Well now we ll find the 5 year old burning anything she doesn’t like or agree with ……great

The only way anyone learns is by being told when things are right or wrong.

I never had to tell my kids what were 'bad' words. They seemed to know instinctively, which is not surprising when you think about how rude and aggressive sounding words are used.

How a word is used is just as important as what it is for getting its meaning and purpose across.

I would have let the whole icing argument blow over, but explained to her that that isn't a nice word and shouldn't be used at home.

I can’t imagine having a falling out with a five year old over either an icing color or the note to be honest. They’re little sponges and pick up everything - especially the things we wouldn’t want them to. You’ve talked about to being wrong and hurting feelings and all that and now what ? You’re not wanting to be around a five year old little
Girl because I’m a bit of a tantrum she said something unkind about you? Seems incredibly silly really - I wouldn’t be giving it a moments thought let alone letting impact
Wanting to see a small child.

Yammy

You can all laugh and conjecture on the colour of the icing and not agree with the OP getting upset.
Just remember what you wrote when next time you are with your grandchildren or even grown-up children and they tell you to f off or call you a f....dinosaur or throw a tantrum when they get peas instead of the beans they demanded.
It happens to us all. The only way anyone learns is by being told when things are right or wrong.

I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with gently letting her know
Those words ardent kind and hurt grans feelings etc but the idea that she’s now finding herself not
Wanting to see the five year old in question is frankly ridiculous

Iam64

My almost 4 year old grandson ambled about singing ‘bring us sone friggin’ pudding’ through the Christmas period. Much snorting from the adults, all of whom decided it best to let this one lie.
Sorry Streamertail but try and see the positives. What a bright child who expressed emotions rather than acting it out

I always remember the little voice coming from the back of the car as we drove home along a winding road: "Bloody cyclists!"
Then the time they were eager to repeat the naughty word their teacher used (not that bad, but it caused much glee). Sorry, Miss!

Just remember what you wrote when next time you are with your grandchildren or even grown-up children and they tell you to f off or call you a f....dinosaur or throw a tantrum when they get peas instead of the beans they demanded

It depends if they're 5 or 15 when they do it.

…burning the note? That is so inappropriate, I’m sorry. I do not mean to criticize you however if you truly believe you were justified in your actions then you need a good shaking. I can’t imagine how the decision to burn her note came about besides you being downright furious over it and that fury led to you either wanting her to see her feelings that she had written down be burned and destroyed or it possibly eased your own hurt? How on earth was burning her note helpful to her? Just so many mistakes here..a calm person who understands this was a child would have simply tossed it in the bin.

And this in combination with putting your preference for the color of icing on a cake over your granddaughters childish but still genuine desires. If I had to choose between either 1) I get to chose the icing color but my granddaughter is unhappy -or- 2) granddaughter picks the color and is happy to have made a cake with grandma/grandpa and I….well, I don’t even know? What was it that you would have lost if you had not been the one to choose the color of the icing? Money? A bit of time? Status in the community? I can’t think of anything that would be so worth it. Hopefully, I pray, it was just a one time thing where your emotions got in the way repeatedly and in hindsight you would have done different. Your granddaughter might need some help from the adults in her lives, I really think the burning of her note would be something that sticks in the mind of a child for a long time to come. Please see to it that she has a safe emotional outlet, maybe a play therapist or something. Just someone to talk too honestly and openly.

Why are these always the same theme?
If you’re going to wind us all up then be a bit more inventive.

Sago

Why are these always the same theme?
If you’re going to wind us all up then be a bit more inventive.

This ^

Stream a tale 😂

Sago

Why are these always the same theme?
If you’re going to wind us all up then be a bit more inventive.

Sago 😲
Surely not?

When 3 year old DGD swore (it was only ^bloody cyclists^) I made her write 100 lines:
"I must be kind about cyclists, they are people too".

Violetsky gives good advice.

And I think burning the note is a very unfortunate and over dramatic response to a 5 year old expressing feelings, albeit rather inappropriately (not that she would fully understand the inappropriateness)

Norah

Sago

Why are these always the same theme?
If you’re going to wind us all up then be a bit more inventive.

This ^

👏

No return from OP….

She must be quite bright if she is able to write you a note at 5yrs!
You should have let her choose the icing colour!

I am pointing out that there are many threads always from new posters, on this theme.
It’s very clearly a wind up.

farmgran

She must be quite bright if she is able to write you a note at 5yrs!
You should have let her choose the icing colour!

My DGS is 5 and quite capable of writing notes/letters.

As I said, I made my 3 year old DGD write 100 lines.
Then I ate all the cakes.

Shelflife

Are you for real !!!? You actually had a falling out with a five year old over the colour of the icing for the cup cakes?? For goodness sake , I presume you were making cup cakes with your GD for her entertainment/ education and pleasure . Therefore you really should have asked her which colour she would like. As for the F word , whilst very unfortunate,forget it. You should be proud that your five year old GC is clever enough to
write! because of this ' falling out' you feel you don't want to see her very much - didums , poor you! I suspect the feeling is mutual . Please get a grip and grow up.

excellent post Shelflife

You can't fall out with a 5 year old ! , it implies some level of parity .You are the adult and she is a small child .
I am also impressed by her literacy , context and spelling of stupid .
If this actually happened then GC should be able to ice in fluorescent green with orange spots if she wants to . If you are baking for a cake shop then do it alone OP.
You are making way too much of this.
You should have just gently told her that it isnt a nice word and it can upset people .

it's like skittles, i guess.