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Missing grandaughter so much

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Yvonne57 Sat 11-Feb-23 12:04:25

Hi, I have been having my grandaughter stay weekends since she was born 5 years ago (apart from the lockdown) my son Luna’s dad comes to my house to stay the weekends she stays. It’s not possible for my son to have Luna stay at his bedsit.
We all have a special bond and Luna so looks forward to coming to stay. I go and pick her up, she is always so happy to see me.
Two weeks ago my son had missed a child maintenance payment so Luna’s mom stopped her coming to see us. Very upsetting. Two weeks later, my son paid Luna’s mom £50 on Wednesday. We couldn’t wait until this weekend came. Luna’s mom has stopped her coming here again as she wants another £100. My son hasn’t got that much money he is at the moment out of work.
We are distraught and dread to think how poor Luna is feeling. I need help on this 😢😢

Smileless2012 Sun 19-Feb-23 08:48:37

If you don't want to debate with other posters then don't respond to them 1yleLyle but this is how a forum like GN works.

As you say DiamondLily there's been criticism of the OP and the OP herself though goodness knows why. I've criticised the mother of this little girl based on what we know; she's stopped the her father and her GM from seeing her because of money.

The father's been criticised based on assumptions.

DiamondLily Sun 19-Feb-23 04:50:10

Oh, is that was Vloging is?....sounds incredibly boring. There is nothing worse than someone launching in with their perceived wisdom, without then acknowledging there might just be another view to be had.

I don't know if it still goes on but there used to be these people at Hyde Park Corner - on a soapbox, ranting and shouting, brooking no arguments, no matter how crazy their ideas were lol 🙄

The OP posted, briefly, looking, it seemed, for some support/advice, as she was unhappy about the situation. The thread then descended into criticism about her son, and herself, for some odd reason.

This section is supposed to be about support - many of the posts weren't very kind or supportive.🙁

Rosie51 Sun 19-Feb-23 00:11:36

lyleLyle you might want to consider vloging. It's a method by which you impart your especial wisdom that requires no acknowledgement of previous posts/wisdom and definitely no interaction with anybody else's opinions, let alone any meaningful debate. I understand it's the ideal platform for the egotist.

lyleLyle Sat 18-Feb-23 22:34:44

Glorianny,

As long as my comments are within the talk guidelines established by the site, I can post what I want. You don’t have to like it. It’s just not something you have control over. And that’s okay. That’s life. I’m not engaging in debate on this OP. There’s nothing anyone can do about it smile.

Glorianny Sat 18-Feb-23 22:01:12

lyleLyle

Glorianny

Isn't GN all about interacting? I always thought it was.

Where are the rules that state I must interact in a way you find acceptable though? I posted to the OP. I am not and wasn’t interested in debating others people’s or my opinion on the OP. That’s my choice and my right. I can choose my interactions. It’s just a fact.

Of course you can choose when you interact, what you can't do is criticise others for commenting on your posts. That's their choice.

lyleLyle Sat 18-Feb-23 21:48:13

Callistemon21

^you’re entitled to your opinions^
Of course we are, thank you.

I'm really rather unconcerned about your opinion too.

Only that a little girl is in the middle of all this. It could be hypothetical of course, but it does happen.

I have a feeling of déjà vu re your posts, though.
🤔

Glad you’re concerned for the child. Not sure why you are sharing this with me, though.

VioletSky Sat 18-Feb-23 21:47:41

It's metaphorical cake so yes

icanhandthemback Sat 18-Feb-23 21:44:56

VioletSky

Did you ican

Well this is awkward

Would you like some tea and cake?

Only if it’s calorie free! 🤣

lyleLyle Sat 18-Feb-23 21:40:48

Glorianny

Isn't GN all about interacting? I always thought it was.

Where are the rules that state I must interact in a way you find acceptable though? I posted to the OP. I am not and wasn’t interested in debating others people’s or my opinion on the OP. That’s my choice and my right. I can choose my interactions. It’s just a fact.

Callistemon21 Sat 18-Feb-23 21:29:52

Thank you for the reminder. 🙂

VioletSky Sat 18-Feb-23 21:21:08

Take your vitamin D supplements later

Callistemon21 Sat 18-Feb-23 21:15:55

VioletSky

I cannot even remember the last time someone agreed with me

Also, I'd just get embarrassed and shuffle off

I agreed with you that you might need iron supplements 😁
And you agreed with me that vitamin D supplements are good in the winter.

Remind me to take mine later 🙂

VioletSky Sat 18-Feb-23 21:14:02

Did you ican

Well this is awkward

Would you like some tea and cake?

icanhandthemback Sat 18-Feb-23 21:12:01

I yayed you on 15/02/2023 12:32, VS! grin

Callistemon21 Sat 18-Feb-23 20:59:54

you’re entitled to your opinions
Of course we are, thank you.

I'm really rather unconcerned about your opinion too.

Only that a little girl is in the middle of all this. It could be hypothetical of course, but it does happen.

I have a feeling of déjà vu re your posts, though.
🤔

VioletSky Sat 18-Feb-23 20:59:02

I cannot even remember the last time someone agreed with me

Also, I'd just get embarrassed and shuffle off

Callistemon21 Sat 18-Feb-23 20:56:51

lyleLyle

Glorianny & Callistemon

That’s your opinion. Not sure if the OP confided in you what is helpful or not to her, but you’re entitled to your opinions. I’m not sure what impact you think it’s supposed to have on me. I don’t comment with the goal of approval of other commenters. I didn’t find the vast majority of the comments from people attempting to debate my opinion helpful, but as you can see I am unconcerned about that. Not sure what your goal is here with these interactions you keep initiating smile

🙂

Glorianny Sat 18-Feb-23 20:52:45

Iam64

VioletSky

I always imagine this utopia where people can give their advice to the OP without the gallery naying

Hmmm I’ve not you noticed objecting if your own comments are supported VioletSky.

Maybe yaying is OK but naying isn't

VioletSky Sat 18-Feb-23 20:44:56

What do you mean Iam?

Iam64 Sat 18-Feb-23 20:35:52

VioletSky

I always imagine this utopia where people can give their advice to the OP without the gallery naying

Hmmm I’ve not you noticed objecting if your own comments are supported VioletSky.

Smileless2012 Sat 18-Feb-23 19:40:31

Yes that would make a refreshing change wouldn't it, as would responding to the information given by the OP without making up possible scenarios.

Yes GN is all about interacting Glorianny.

VioletSky Sat 18-Feb-23 19:07:29

I always imagine this utopia where people can give their advice to the OP without the gallery naying

Iam64 Sat 18-Feb-23 18:30:31

Good post Diamind Lily

Yes Gloriannie, GN is about interacting.

Glorianny Sat 18-Feb-23 18:07:28

Isn't GN all about interacting? I always thought it was.

lyleLyle Sat 18-Feb-23 14:54:27

Glorianny & Callistemon

That’s your opinion. Not sure if the OP confided in you what is helpful or not to her, but you’re entitled to your opinions. I’m not sure what impact you think it’s supposed to have on me. I don’t comment with the goal of approval of other commenters. I didn’t find the vast majority of the comments from people attempting to debate my opinion helpful, but as you can see I am unconcerned about that. Not sure what your goal is here with these interactions you keep initiating smile