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I agree GSM but it is hard to monitor toddlers all the time. Children of 2 &4 soon forget what they have been told.
Is it possible to keep your dogs apart from the children at least for some of the time Adgm and have shorter visits. Explain to your daughter and son in law that you were stressed about the children and dogs when you made the Google search.

Sorry but however lovely they are I feel the dogs should have been put behind a safety gate with a strange 2 and 4 year old around…children of 2 and 4 don’t disrespect dogs but they don’t know how to be safely around them so if you have guests it’s up to you to keep the dogs out of their hands

Your post is a bit muddled is English your first language ?

Not sure what you were googling ? Was it how to discipline grandchildren If so, if their parents were present it’s not up to you to discipline them if they behave badly you speak to the parents and ask them to sort them out

If they got bitten by your dogs it wouldn’t be the dogs fault or the children’s fault but yours and their parents for not keeping them safely apart
Please be more prepared for the next visit suddenly having a 2 and 4 year old around is going to seem like riots if you aren’t used to any noise or muddle
Good luck for next time

Is it a boy thing ? My 2 granddaughter's never bothered our Jack Russell. They are 13 and 11 now and still love our dog and respect our house . Grandson is completely different, he's 5 now . But as soon as he could walk he chased and terrorised our poor dog, she still hides from him . He touches everything we ask him not too and can't be left alone without getting up to mischief. We had one of those balloon pumps over the weekend, when our backs were turned he tried to inflate our poor guinea pigs !!!

I’m amazed you hadn’t had a conversation about children and dogs previously as the children are 2 and 4. Why not? Never mind the messiness, difficult though that is to accept - the children’s safety is at stake if they don’t know how to interact with dogs and they are not supervised at all times. Your daughter and son in law have to take their share of responsibility for what might have happened, or may happen on a future visit if their children are not properly disciplined.

Oh my goodness, you have got yourself into a pickle

Calling children "brats" is not likely to go down well

Here is my advice, please take it or leave it

What you need to do is communicate your concerns to your daughter (primarily) amd your SIL

You need to explain that you love them and love spending time with them but perhaps a shorter visit next time as the extra noise and mess was tiring

Next visit you need to explain again your concerns about your grandchild and the dog before hand and ask that they handle any problems with their child quickly and explain to him how the dog should be treated. Also say that you will do your best to create a safe space for dog and child to be seperate when there is any chance they won't be fully supervised

And definitely apologise for the Google search, as a moment of frustration. Get that done as soon as possible, don't let it fester